How do we pursue our secondary values? That brings up three core conceptions of self: first, the ego, our image of who we are, our known self. Second, the superego, our idea of who we can be, how we can change, what we can do better. Third, the id, our idea of our true self, the pure version of us, if we scale back and take away all that is fake or different.
I believe that there are Id types, that work to find the pure version of who they are, their most pure thoughts, values, desires, and needs. I also believe that there are ego types, that work to serve their conscious self, what they know, what they believe to be true about themselves, and what they like and know in themselves. Finally, I believe there are superego types, that live to change, to improve, to become better, and more ideal versions of themselves.
The Id is perhaps best found in people that have always been a little ashamed of themselves, always been told to change, to be something else, to do something different, to smile and just be happy. Rejecting this, they instead work to verify who they really are.
The Enneagram 5 is an Id type concerned with true knowledge, true belief. The Enneagram 4 is an Id type concerned with the true, real self. The social instinct believes there is a normal, and seeks to live according to what is normal. The 9 is focused on their true potential, what they can become, what they are meant to do or accomplish in life. Yes, all Id-types believe there is something real, something ideal, something pure, and they’re all searching for this. At times, this essence can be perceived as dark, negative, or bad in some way.
The ego is a representation of what we know and what we believe to be true. It is our known strengths, it is what we know about the world, and it is what we know about ourselves. Our known intentions, and our known desires.
Enneagram 3 for example, knows its strengths and it’s powers, and wants to test and prove these gifts to the world. Enneagram Sx knows it’s needs, what it needs to be happy, what it wants for itself, but not how to get it. Enneagram 6 knows the world and what kind of world it lives in, but not how it can excel and thrive within this world.
And lastly, Enneagram 1 knows how to get what it wants, but not what it wants. Yes, the strong identification with ego can come if people have hidden things from us. If we grew up in a world with many secrets and where we were forbidden from doing certain things, going certain places, or doing certain things.
The superego reflects our known ideal, what we know that we could become, if we worked hard and made an effort to change and be different. It is what we idealise and seek and desire. If we grew up feeling like we couldn’t become what we wanted to, couldn’t explore our full potential, if people didn’t believe in us, or support us in our dreams.
Here, you meet the 8, that thirsts for power and to prove themselves to the world. You also meet the 7, that has their ideal life planned out and has strong dreams and expectations for how things should be. You also meet the 2, that is always trying to live up to everyone’s expectations, trying to be the best version of themselves, trying to be a better person than they are.
You also meet the self-preserving type, who seeks to live in a peaceful world, where everyone is happy and where everyone is safe and well. The superego types are known for their high expectations.