For the 5, the pursuit of knowledge and the acquiring of skills and understanding is a top priority. 5s can struggle early with feeling weak or as if they don’t understand as well as others, and fear not having the necessary skills or abilities.
To understand and to know how things work.
To feel weak or to lack a skill.
-+– Reserved, Open, Disagreeable, Careless
Anxiety-driven, frustrated, fearful, ashamed.
5wSp: The Wiz-Kid 5w6: The Beta Tester
Enneagram 5 types often grow up feeling that they are weak or somehow less able than others. This often fuels the type’s high desire to learn, to gain skills, knowledge, and qualities that can make them earn the right to be happy and content with self. Enneagram 5 types can struggle from a lack of confidence that can have them pull away from the world, where they study and work on themselves until they feel ready to reveal themselves to other people.
“I would always think of reasons why I couldn’t do something, and I would easily get anxious when starting a new relationship or when in a new environment. Afraid people would see how much I struggled and anxious about why I seemed to do so much worse than everyone else.”
Often, because these types are so much in their own heads, and tend to overthink simple tasks, they would easily fall into thought loops in which they kept rehearsing and stressing about how to do a task. Enneagram 5 types would dwell more than other types on how bad they did at tasks, and would often feel that if they were bad at a task, they didn’t deserve to be in a certain environment.
Enneagram 5: The Big 5 Profile
Enneagram 5s tend to be among the most open-minded of all personality types. They are mostly focused on a life of learning, new experiences, novelty.
Enneagram 5s can however struggle with motivation to work, and lacking motivation to go out and do something, unless it offers them an opportunity to learn something.
Their sceptical nature tends to fuel this, as they need a reason to do everything, and struggle to act if they don’t know what that reason is.
When emotionally stable, Enneagram 5s tend to demonstrate a healthy scepticism, but this scepticism doesn’t intrude from their ability to live a normal life and to manage daily chores and decisions. When neurotic, 5s may find themselves becoming indecisive, unsure of themselves, and too prone to doubt. This can keep them from making decisions in their life and instead acting in a passive manner, showing their awareness only in hindsight, and not being able to use it to drive them forward in life.
Sages tend to be seen as knowledgeable and aware because of this high certainty. People can rest themselves on the shoulder’s of the sage’s at any time. The sage’s may come off as cold as they speak out for what they think. Sage’s will often be prone to denial and will often pretend to be okay even when they are struggling with something, as to not shake people’s trust in them.
Sages tend to brood a lot and will often struggle to share their doubts and worries with others.A sage is locked in a permanent state of confusion and does not know what to do or what is right and wrong. They remain cold and detached as they study the world impartially. They tend to act certain or like they know the answer to any question, even though they are never really sure of themselves.
Common traits: Intelligent, sharp, expertful, perceptive, cerebral, reclusive
The five is a head type, and generally perceived as a constantly changing pillar of wit and intelligence and careful reasoning. You’ll find that the five is impartial and objective in their analysis of the world, taking things slowly and carefully, going over facts and double-checking answers to make sure they are right.
The five wants to avoid placing sentiment or personal opinion into their answers, and seeks a truth or an answer that is objective or can be accepted as true by anyone. Herein lies a goal of the sage to achieve truth that is not gentle or sweet, but sometimes harsh and raw. The sage seeks truth that tastes like bitter medicine. As a five, you are ready to accept difficult facts of life and to live by and to adapt to these truths, even if it is difficult. The five is here often treated as a honest truth-teller, someone that will be real with you and someone who’s judgement can always be trusted.
The five is at other times considered as narrow-minded and cold. They can be inflexible to new information, and stubborn. The five wants to at all times maintain their rationale – and will avoid situations that expose them as ignorant or unknowing. This means moving their mind and their thoughts to areas where they feel more comfortable and secure. It also means avoiding environments and situations that can take them outside their comfort zone.