A messenger is like a storyteller, someone who creates tales and acts by their moral ideology and guidelines. The messengers use their social intelligence, feeling judging, to devise stories and moral frameworks and social guidelines that they live and conduct themselves by. They use social intelligence to organize and to move social dynamics around them.
It relates to the storytelling network, which weaves and crafts tales and analyzes intentions and social situations. It also involves proactive control which is about adjusting your behaviour and actions in advance of a situation.
Nickname: The Messenger
Primary desire: To live in accordance with your values and beliefs
Core fear: To act in a way that contradicts or fails your beliefs and higher ideals
How to integrate yourself: Cultural intelligence (FP)
How to ground yourself: Analytical intelligence (TP)
Variations: ENFJ, ESFJ, ISFJ, and INFJ
Jungian variation: This is an uniquely neojungian definition separate from extroverted feeling.
Key motivations: To improve social order and structure, to move and guide people in need, and to drive people forward.
Forming morals and belief systems
Feeling judging can be devised to organize moral principles and social experiences into a system. You can come up with a greater story, and you can sense a higher form of values and standards.
You act proactively to organize society according to how you dream it to be, what you believe it can be. If you want a happier world, you assume the role of a comedian. If you seek a more peaceful world, you take the role of a peace fighter. You are a messenger for your beliefs and your dreams, whatever they may be.
Living by a belief system or moral principle
Messengers have the ability to live and act in accordance with their idea of their higher story. They become the kind of person they need to be do fulfill their destiny or dream, as they have perceived it.
They suppress situational desires and temptations to live up to their higher ideal. Using social intelligence, they perform to fulfill the ideals they serve. Of course, a healthy messenger lives by a belief system that is in peace with who they are, and what they want.
Acting to organize social dynamics and your culture
Messengers have a high belief in the moral or social ideas they have formed. What they have come to believe in, they often want others to believe in as well. If they meet people who are struggling, they will act to aid them in some way or form, guiding people to live in accordance with the higher natural laws and ideologies.
This can help people who feel out of place reconnect to society or the group. It can help bring people together, but it can also cause polarization and conflict with those that don’t believe in the social dynamics you believe in.
What is social intelligence?
If social intelligence were to be described as a superpower, it would be the ability to make anything become true by saying it with conviction and passion. This can be both for good and bad, as people naturally tend to believe you. Social intelligence is based on belief and what you believe in. Belief is the earliest form of judgement, the quick assumption you have about the world and the people around you. The bad thing is that when unhealthy, messengers may say negative things about themselves and others, and spread bad ideas in society. But when healthy, messengers help spread a positive team spirit, and good beliefs that lead to growth.
Social intelligence is about finding beautiful and pleasant things in the world around us – for example art – and showing them to other people, in a way that makes others see the beauty of the art that we have found. By showing or telling of this art to others, in new light, adding rich scenic details and telling people about what we think it means, we can spread interest in this work. Ornamental thinkers at their best see aesthetics and beauty in everything and everyone and have a way of getting others to open up.
Social intelligence is the primary skill of a salesman or pitcher, someone who knows how to present and show something off to an audience in a way that generates interest. Messengers tend to be quick to trust and appreciate others and sensitive to others’ signals and to how things appear, but they tend to maintain an impression for a long time after developing one.
When we become integrated, we become broader and we begin to consider more perspectives than we normally would. If you purely use this function on its own, you can be at risk of being seen as manipulative, prejudiced, and you may spread unnecessary dissent between different groups. Cultural intelligence (FP) provides what you need to become more inspired.
- Reporters (FP) help messengers (FJ) by asking personal questions and asking for authenticity and “the true you”, which can help you see your own needs
- Reporters can help you find truth, consistency and to maintain a clear message, and to avoid mixed signals, giving you harmony between your inner and outer self.
- Reporters can teach you personal boundaries and respect for people’s differences in seeing.
To successfully integrate, you need to be ready to temporarily relax your inner need for accuracy and perfection, and to make yourself more vulnerable.