What’s the difference between feeling and thinking and how can you recognise it in yourself and other people? Well, there are a few tricks you can use… And first, you have to step into the other person’s shoes.
Feeling (F) and Thinking (T)
F. Ask someone a personal question, for example about how they view or feel about a certain movie, person, or situation.
Agreeable Feeler: An agreeable feeler will share and care about what they talk about, and will feel that your viewpoints and personal perspectives are important.
Disagreeable Feeler: A disagreeable feeling type will generally dislike or position themselves in opposition to your views, but will still have views of their own on the subject matter.
Agreeable Thinker: An agreeable thinking type will encourage your views but answer using objective or logical feedback.
Disagreeable Thinker: A disagreeable thinker will hold what you ask to be unimportant and will seem not to care about it, and will rationalise why it’s pointless to try to help you.
T. Ask someone a factual or objective question, about how to do a task or how to solve a problem.
Agreeable Thinker: An agreeable thinker will think of strategies to solve the problem and will encourage your solutions as well.
Disagreeable Thinker: A disagreeable thinker will think of strategies to solve the problem while disagreeing with or questioning your solutions.
Agreeable Feeler: An agreeable feeling type will find a personal way to answer your problem or give a relative answer based on how you can find the answer.
Disagreeable Feeler: A disagreeable feeling type will seem reluctant to help or believes you do not care for their feedback, and will come up with an argument for why you don’t value their personal feedback.
Facial Expressions in Feelers and Thinkers
Thinkers often seem to have reluctant, somewhat withheld expressions, as they try to maintain a cool and expressionless face when they can. The goal is to remain impartial and this can make their smiles feel forced or somewhat uncomfortable. This gives thinkers a “strong face”. You might describe them as ambitious, tough, hardcore, or “cool”.
Feeling types have natural expressions, smiles, and expressions, that seem to come up naturally and without any signs of resistance in the face. This can make them be described as authentic, honest, kind, and warm.
Body language of Feelers and Thinkers
The body language of feelers
Typically, feelers will have more relaxed finger movements, fingers swaying and moving as if they were leaves in the wind. These motions tend to also be more gentle.
The body language of thinkers
I’ve found that thinking types tend to have more choppy and conscious finger movements, fingers that seem to click, switch, flip as if they are pulling levers or controlling invisible strings.
The speech pattern of feelers
Feelers tend to show more emotion and warmth when they speak, their words leaking out in affect, and emotions sway up and down more than in thinkers.
The speech pattern of thinkers
Thinkers are generally well articulated and seem conscious about how they talk and use words, but show little emotion in their voice as they speak.