The Giver (Enneagram 2)
The Giver wants to give and to avoid being selfish. What you give depends on your flow type.
To give something to the world
To be selfish
Certainty, Pessimism, Goodness, Confidence (+-++)
Proactive & Subjective
Caregiver/Hero (The Goodie Goodie) & Caregiver/Soldier (Protector) & Caregiver/Innocent (Helping Hand) & Caregiver/Performer (Family Man)
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The Caregiver (Enneagram 2)
This caring, hearty type carries a sense of certainty and stubbornness resemblant of one of the gut types. They also carry themselves with the satisfaction and pride of someone who feels that they are accomplished, strong, and capable people. This feeling is carried into a drive to want to help others. Because the two feels that they have it well and good, they feel it is their duty to help others reach the same position.
Now, the two can sometimes be blinded by this certain perception. They will often feel overly certain that they are doing the right thing, even when they’re not. They’re stubborn and ready to keep pushing in this direction, even when they’re starting to waver or realise that there are issues with their solutions.
Common traits: Helpful, kind, good-hearted, humane, gracious, and understanding.
The Enneagram two type has a heart for heroism and for positive, proactive action towards a higher value or calling. The enneagram two is attached to feeling like the hero, the good guy or gal in every story. It is important for them to be in the history books, or at least in their friends minds, as the person of the biggest heart and the most kindness. The Enneagram two type will therefore push themselves hard to be giving, considerate, and compassionate people. In this struggle, the Enneagram 2 will look from their personal perspective.
They will look at what they see or think other people need to be happy, and they will work hard to show a secure code of conduct and a solid sense of right and wrong. The Enneagram 2 type has an independent, personal idea of what is right and wrong. This idea comes from their own opinions and experiences and their own reasoning and intention. The Enneagram Two will assert what they believe is right, even if other people do not see themselves as needing it.
This includes giving and intervening in other peoples lives and trying to help people who do not think they need to be helped. In this, the Enneagram Two type sees themselves as having good intentions. The other person may not realise that they are struggling, or that they need help, but if you can do something to help them, they will be happy in the end. The outcome is what matters to the two, but the two struggles with being overly certain of themselves and thinking they know better than others.
Enneagram 2 Big 5
The need to be liked tends to make a person more conscientious, more agreeable, and more outgoing. The goal is to go out and to do things that are compassionate and moral and to take responsibility and control for how things are. The need to be liked tends to however lead to less openness as E2s perceive their own interests as frivolous and selfish.
When Enneagram 2s struggle with neuroticism, they begin to believe that they are disliked or underappreciated by other people. This makes them feel that they are not doing enough to be approved by others and that they need to be nicer to people to “win them over.” They can here begin to pressure others by being overly accommodating, forcing their care on people who do not want it. More emotionally stable Enneagram 2s tend to be more patient with people and less demanding of appreciation.
Survival: In early stages of development, twos are very focused on getting approval and care from their parents and close ones. They try from an early age to “win people over” by being very easy to like.
Tribal: Here, 2s start really revealing their caring nature as they begin to help their parents out early. Start doing services without being asked, try to get approval for helping out.
Rebellious: As 2s begin breaking out of the family and developing their own identity, they make sure this identity will be liked and appreciated by their family or teachers. Try to become someone people can be proud of. Can sometimes alienate peers and attract jealousy for outshining other people.
Civilised: Start becoming focused on helping other people succeed, too. Realise they can’t win alone and become team-minded. Work hard to make sure everyone has what they need to succeed.
Successful: Begin to show leadership and “shine through example.” Lead the way for the group and work hard to live up to people’s expectations and to deliver on promises, doing something good. Can still make other people feel run over as they assert what they think is best undemocratically. “What can I do to make the world better?”
Globalised: Start feeling true compassion, as they work to bring other people to their level: become teachers, guiding others to do kind deeds, show others how to give and how to help, make other people feel important. Install a sense of democracy in the group. “What do we want?”