The INFJ personality type brings together independent spirits (NJs) that seek to make their own way in life, yet remaining kind, good-natured and compassionate as they do. (FJ)
It connects to people with a touch of idealism or melancholy that can't seem to be snuffed out (NF), and people who seem to be born wise and with a degree of understanding and acceptance that all humans should be inspired by. (IF)
The INFJ is a private and philosophical type (IN), and at the same time a potential leader and frontrunner of vision and wisdom. (IJ)
INFJ Big 5 Profile
INFJs can be either reserved or outgoing, open or close-minded, conscientious or careless, or agreeable or disagreeable depending on their level of development.
Outgoingness / Reservedness
INFJs can appear reserved if they don't get their much needed alone time and privacy. Long-term overwhelm and pressure to be on for other people, can make INFJs close off, becoming less interested in talking with people.
Openness / Close-mindedness
When INFJs don't have independence and freedom to walk their own path, and when INFJs don't get the privacy they need to consider the bigger picture, INFJs tend to become more close minded and less interested in new information and change.
Conscientiousness / Carelessness
INFJs that lack control and a say will often become more careless and sloppy, thinking less about how to do things well.
Agreeableness / Disagreeableness
INFJs that don't get the time to appreciate the smaller things in life, and INFJs who can't find an outlet for their kindness tend to become more disagreeable and more pessimistic.
Stability / Neuroticism
We become more stable when we overall find more positive outlets for our values and our needs and environments that help us thrive.
The best way I have found to organise INFJs is by their secondary values, such as INFJ-1s, that need to be successful, and INFJ-2s that need to be liked.
Have often struggled with feeling like failures or disappointments. Want to be successful to prove people wrong.
Tend to struggle with feeling disliked or not appreciated enough. Try extra hard to be kind and understanding, even when it goes against their values.
Grow up not feeling seen or heard. Want people to notice them and so work hard to be funny, entertaining, and popular.
Grow up feeling alone and like outcasts. Want to find a place where they can be accepted.
Struggle with feeling inadequate or not good enough at what they do. Work hard to gain the knowledge and skills to succeed in life.
Grow up in insecure environments with no sure role or position in the group. Want to be safe and to prove their worth so they can feel safe.
Struggle with boredom and understimulation and easily feel restless.
Often struggle with feeling heard and appreciated when they are trying to do the right thing. Struggle with feeling powerless.
Grow up in disharmonious and conflict-filled environments. Want to maintain peace and harmony.
INFJs that struggle to fit in and feel accepted may find a higher need to accommodate other people.
When INFJs struggle with feeling unloved, they become more concerned with getting love and acceptance from others.
INFJs that grow up in hard and unaccommodating environments tend to feel a higher need for peace and security.