The Muse Relationship

We tend to call the people who share our values but who come from different temperaments and a different mental process muses. We don't recognise how they think and how they act but we realise their benefits and we find these people oddly stimulating to be around.

Their thought process and actions have a way of "hitting us" in ways we did not expect and we will look at these partners almost as if they were magical or supernatural beings. But the muse relationship dynamic is not free from issues: most commonly, when things are great, they are just amazing, and when they are bad, they are really bad.

When under stress or anxiety, our friends or partners of this type may appear scary or dangerous. Our repressed issues, fears, anxieties, and what we feel ashamed of tends to be brought up by this person. This is why the muse is often a mirroring dynamic. They will show us things in ourselves we do not always wish to see. The muse will also show us what we can become, what we dream of, but what we are scared to go for.

Some common examples: We may dream of being with this person, but we may feel ashamed or like we are not good enough for them. We may be afraid of being with this person because we can't predict them. We may be anxious or we may feel inferior to them, or like we can't deliver what they expect. Or we may feel angry with ourselves and like we have failed them somehow. The ability of the muse to bring out how we really feel about a situation and to make us vulnerable is almost extreme at times.

When we do not wish to be confronted with these emotions, we may make the other person responsible for them. At times of conflict, our muse can almost resemble a demon or a shadow, and we may have strong conflicts with this type because of this. The muse is the closest to what is often described a "soulmate" in popular culture, a romantic ideal or a common figure of affection in movies. 

Differences in communication

Different types communicate differently, and sometimes that can cause issues, mistranslations, and sometimes, these mistranslations can be positive.

Communicator (FJ) - Reporter (FP)

This is a pairing that will often help educate both parties on questions of diplomacy, ethics, code of conduct, and social issues.

  • A reporter will ask many questions to clarify the communicator, but at times, communicators will feel like they are being interrogated by the reporter. Growth: Entertain different viewpoints before coming to a conclusion.
  • A communicator will come up with ways to describe or understand a situation or what is going on, but at times the reporter will find that the communicator is painting them into a corner.
    Growth: Improve your ability to deliver clear conclusions.

Hacker (TP) - Architect (TJ)

This is a pairing that will help you improve and clarify your goals and actions as well as help you develop good strategies and ways to solve problems.

  • Hackers will always be looking for flaws and blind spots in your reasoning, helping you cover ground and avoid issues and intercepting possible problems before they occur. At times this will be perceived as nitpicky.
    Growth: Organise yourself better.
  • Architects will be setting up a game plan and strategy to organise your ideas and solutions by, but at times, this will be perceived as controlling.
    Growth: Take the present situation into consideration.

Differences in reasoning

How do you evaluate and analyse a situation? Different types tend to look at a situation differently.

Counsellor (IF) and Promoter (EF)

This pairing will often teach you a lot about yourself and why you do what you do, who you are, and what you can become.

  • Promoters are often focused on what you do and how you act, and what character you show in your decisions and actions (good, bad, nice, cowardly). Counsellors may sometimes feel that the promoter is oblivious to their feelings and needs.
    Growth: Share your feelings more often before they become too intense to manage.
  • Counsellors are often focused on why you do things and what intentions lay behind your actions. Promoters may sometimes feel that the counsellor is blind to what they actually do and to the struggles of the promoter. 
    Growth: Take a moment to think about your intentions before you act.

Critic (IT) & Pragmatic (ET)

This dynamic will often show you areas where you can improve and ways that you can do better in various tasks.

  • Critics will often bring up smaller things you could fix and minor issues that could be corrected to improve your work. Pragmatics may sometimes feel that critics are being nitpicky.
    Growth: Sometimes action is more important than accuracy.
  • Pragmatics will show things you can do differently and ways to get results without needing to think so much. At times, pragmatics may seem like they are all brawns and no brains.
    Growth: Small improvements can make a big difference.

Differences in action

Some issues may exist in how muses act and live in the moment. Decisions made on the fly, adaptations to change.

Catalysts (NP) and Speculants (NJ)

  • Catalysts may often show you different ways to approach an idea or different ways to look at a situation. But at times, they may appear too relativistic. 
  • A speculant often shows the bigger picture or makes predictions about what might happen in the future, but the speculants may also appear overly prone to sweeping generalisations.

Differences in lifestyle

How do you live your life and how do you approach it? There's a difference between you and your muse.

Philosopher (IN) and Detective (EN)

  • Philosophers will help you show why life is the way it is and why things are shaped and formed the way they are. But at times, the philosopher may be slow moving.
  • Detectives will show you new patterns and change and recurring occurrences around you, but at times it may seem like they are rushing through life's important events.

Scouts (ES) and Instructors (IS)

  • A scout will share what they see and observe with you and what is happening around you, but at times, it may feel as if they never learn from old mistakes.
  • An instructor will often show you information and knowledge that may help you solve a situation, but at times it feels like they can never just enjoy the moment.