What is your identity?
There are about 16 common identities that we tend to pick from based on our upbringing and our personal development. Some of these identities have a mindful, optimistic approach to life, like the Hero. Others try to remain hopeful but neutral, like the objective Explorers. There are also subjective, negative, proactive, controlled, reactive and guarded types.
Mindfulness is consciousness, it is observation and it is caring about what happens. Seeing what is important and being aware of how it feels. Acting in tune with your beliefs, even if there is a chance that you could be wrong or that you could be disappointed.
To be objective is to be aware and attentive of a situation and to consider things impartially while ignoring what is important to you and what you personally think is right. There’s a tendency to second guess your own feelings and to wonder what is really right and wrong here. Can you trust what you feel? Can you trust your thoughts?
To be subjective is to consider your feelings and your values. To focus on what you think is right, while setting aside or ignoring any information that may conflict with this. There is a tendency to second guess the information you’re receiving. What if things aren’t the way I think? What if I’m wrong? What if I’ve missed something?
To be negative is to ignore your personal feelings and new information. To set aside your values and your curiosity and to try to maintain a realistic outlook on life. A negative person will second guess how they feel about something and double-check the information and try to act in a way that feels more realistic.
When you have a proactive mentality, you look to act in a way that gives you control and that takes you forward in life. You do this, even if it at times puts you at odds with external control, or even if there is a chance of making mistakes.
When you have a control mentality, you act in a way that gives you power and influence, while remaining careful with what decisions you make and how you proceed towards what you want.
A reactive person will act in a way that takes them forward, while adjusting and adapting to the control and influence of others. This means following outer control and supervision and using it to get you forward in life.
A guarded person will act in a careful and withdrawn manner, avoiding situations and actions that will put them at risk and adjusting to external authority and rules and supervision.