What Personality Types Are The Most Lazy?

Why are we lazy? What can we do to be less lazy? How can we feel better about our own laziness?

In today’s article we talk about what personality types struggle the most with laziness.

First, let’s define laziness as lacking in energy or motivation towards an activity. Laziness can be manifested as postponing or delaying action or doing an action more slowly or without conscious energy or interest. Laziness can fuel an autopilot like state or can manifest itself as non-responsiveness to your environment.

What personality types are the most lazy?

Flow Extroverted SensingESTPESFPESFJESTJ
Dominant Extroverted SensingESTPESFP
Stress Extroverted SensingINFJINTJINTPINFP
Inferior Extroverted SensingINFJINTJ

Those with flow Extroverted Sensing are some of the most active, busy of all personality types. Those with stress Extroverted Sensing tend to be some of thee most lethargic and lazy of all personality types.

When Extroverted Sensing is the dominant function, that means we assert it to the world, we talk about how active and busy we are and how much we are always getting done.

When Extroverted Sensing is the inferior function, we feel constantly annoyed by how lazy or low on energy we are. That means INFJs and INTJs are the personality types that feel the most guilty for putting in a lack of effort or attention to work and life.

The source of laziness

Introverted iNtuitives direct their energy and attention towards figuring out and speculating on theories and the future. That means their mind is rarely directed to the present. When forced to deal with present tasks, introverted intuitive types tend to lose energy and attention quickly.

INFJs and INTJs are the personality types that are the most characteristically described by their fight against their own laziness. They are constantly pushing themselves to be more active and to do something with their life and feel guilty for not being able to make their theories become a reality.

People around INFJs and INTJs may find these types lazy, slow-moving, or sluggish. Their tendency to delay action or to wait is a symptom of their laziness. If they are to do something, they need time to reframe and recharge before they can commit to a project. After a project is complete, they may become non-responsive or apathetic to their environment.

Flow TypeIntroverted iNtuition (Ni)Extroverted Sensing (Se)
ESFP32,5%67,5%
ESTP32,5%67,5%
INFJ65%35%
INTJ70%30%

INFPs and INTPs also share similar struggles as INFJs and INTJs, but as you can see, INTPs and INFPs have slightly less problems with these functions. It is not their worst cognitive function in the set, and so, they feel less insecure about it. They do however have similar issues with motivation and can benefit from developing this cognitive function.

Flow TypeIntroverted iNtuition (Ni)Extroverted Sensing (Se)
ESFJ42,5%57,5%
ESFP32,5%67,5%
ESTJ42,5%57,5%
ESTP32,5%67,5%
INFJ65%35%
INFP60%40%
INTJ70%30%
INTP60%40%

Tips for developing Extroverted Sensing

  • Be realistic about how much energy you can put into a project
  • Focus your attention and energy into projects that matter to you
  • Don’t feel too guilty about not being able to do everything or not being able to be everywhere at once
  • Give yourself time to recharge in between activities
  • Make the time you spend recharging “self-care” time and try to enjoy it
  • Find healthy ways to recharge by doing things that fuel your Introverted iNtuition
  • Give yourself mini-breaks or timeouts during activities
  • Don’t spread yourself too thin
  • Let go of things that you don’t have the energy or attention for
  • Push yourself to give your all into activities if they matter to you

I hope this advice was of help to you.

The 16 Personalities Love Languages

The INFJ Love Language

INFJs show love by stepping away from and allowing someone else to seize a new opportunity for themselves. They will then help you understand the opportunity and what it means for you. As an INFJ, you will try to find something that will have personal significance for another person. 

You will give people the opportunity of choice and give them options to pick between. The options will be carefully selected based on what you think the other person might like. As an INFJ, you will remove your own opinions from matters of love, and in love, you will be selfless. Your focus is completely on the needs of the other person. In this, it is important for you to know that your partner will appreciate you, and you will feel hurt if the other person does not see or like the things you do for them. 

As an INFJ, you will do your best to be the person that the other person wants you to be. You will try to adjust your lifestyle and values to those that you love. You will try to align your visions to connect better with your partner. It is important then to you that your partner is open minded to your way of seeing things. 

The INTJ Love Language

As an INTJ, your love language is primarily oriented towards empowerment. You seek to empower and give your partner strength to be successful and powerful in life. You want your partner to feel boosted by your presence, and you want to help push and give them direction. As an INTJ, you need your partner to be open minded and able to have an open discussion with you. You will feel hurt if your partner will not be able to have a logical conversation with you about what is smart. 

You try to use your intellect to solve problems that your partner is facing and seeing where they fail. You help them analyse decisions to make sure they come to the right one. Typically, you will give your partner the choice of many options, and you will let them count out the pro’s and con’s of each decision. You withhold your own arguments and opinions and you then try to make decisions that follow on your significant other’s opinions. 

The INTP Love Language

As an INTP, you show love by giving other people power and control. You let other people make decisions for you and you are okay letting go of power to the person you love and admire. You trust in the power of the other person and empower them to be strong and decisive for the both of you. 

You instead focus on taking the role of the advisor, helping your partner understand the decisions you are facing, and showing them the arguments in both directions. Your goal here is to be as neutral as possible, and to simply share the arguments for or against something. 

INFP Love Language

The INFP personality type shares love by letting another person in to care for you, something you normally find very difficult. You may struggle to let other people in and matter, but if you like someone, you trust them to handle you with the care you deserve, and you trust them not to have ulterior motives. You will feel hurt if your partner is selfish or does not consider you in their actions. 

As an INFP In love, it is important for you to give your partner honesty. You know the importance of sharing your feelings with the other person and letting them know how you feel – and you even see it as a reflection of love, even if it’s tough for the other person to hear it. 

While INFPs normally like to march to the beat of their own drum, in love, they are more open to follow another person in their footsteps. In love, you trust your partner to give spiritual guidance and to take the both of you into account. You try your best in this, to keep them open minded, and to show them different ways you could take. 

ENFP Love Language

As an ENFP, you try your best to trust in the integrity and ethical compass of the person you love. When you are in love, you consider the person you are with to be a confidant, someone that will keep your feelings safe. You expect your partner to understand you and to listen to you. You trust your partner to take you seriously and to care about what you say. You will feel hurt if you are misunderstood by your partner. 

ENFPs will show love by sharing and expressing themselves. They will also trust their partner to provide them with guidance and a shared vision. You want your partner to think of both of you and to take both people into account. You will try to keep your partner open minded and let your partner know at all times that life is full of possibilities. 

You will also remind your partner to not be too sure and to not see things set in stone. Anything, to you, is possible. And you will show your partner the many possibilities open to you both.

ENTP Love Language 

ENTPs show love by showing strength for their partner. They want their partner to know they can handle anything you throw at them. As an ENTP, you want your partner to know you can solve any problem faced, and that nothing is beyond your abilities. 

You can find yourself trying hard to impress your loved ones by all the things you can do. You will also want to impress them intellectually, showing them how creative you can be, and how many options you can think of. You can find an opportunity in anything, and you’re happy to share this with your partner.

As an ENTP, you will find yourself letting your partner analyse your decisions, and you will trust in your partner to be logical and sharp. You trust in their intellect and that they can keep up with your mind. You trust them to get you and to keep up with you and how you think. You will beyond that, let them make decisions for the both of you. You will trust them to be responsible and to make a logical decisions for the both of you based on what is realistic and will be rewarding for the future. 

ENFJ Love Languages

If you are an ENFJ, you will find yourself being a person that will want to show love and affection towards your partner. You will trust in your partner to be honest and sincere with you at all times, and feel hurt if your partner won’t open up or confide to you. You want your partner to be open-minded and to not judge your ideas or opinions to be crazy. 

You want your partner to be willing to try things with you. You also need your partner to understand you and what you say. You expect those that you love to really see and hear what you say and to never misconstruct your feelings or opinions. 

ENTJ Love Language

As an ENTJ, you are a person that wants to show will power and strength to those that you love. You count on them to be able to handle you. You trust them to be able to deal with whatever you throw at them. 

The person you love, you love for their intelligence and open-mind. You want a partner that can help you troubleshoot decisions and someone to keep you on your toes. Someone that will stay rational and detached and will think with you about what will be smart or effective. 

ESTJ Love Language

As an ESTJ, you want a partner that is solid and secure in themselves and who they are. It is important for you to have a partner that is clever and ready to work on and improve on themselves. 

You need a partner that will hold you accountable to your decisions and will set boundaries for you on what you can and cannot do. You want to show how capable you are to your loved ones. You want to prove your abilities and demonstrate resourcefulness and dedication. You want to work hard for your partner – and you see hard work as a representation of love. You count on your partner to see and remember what you do for them and you will feel hurt if they won’t. 

ISTJ Love Language

The ISTJ personality type is one that wants to show responsibility and care for security and stability. You want your partner to know they can always count on you and that you are prepared for everything. You fall in love with people that are strong minded and capable. People that can improvise and think quick on their feet. 

When you are in love, you trust in the strength and problem-solving of other people and you feel impressed by what they do and how they do things. You are hurt if your partner won’t stick to the plan you made for the two of you or if they won’t enjoy or show enthusiasm for what you have to say. 

ISTP Love Language

ISTPs show love by working on and improving themselves frequently. Genuinely trying to learn and become the best partner possible, you are trying to know and understand everything about your partner and how they work. 

You count on your partner to make the moves in the relationship and to plan for the both of you and try to be a person that your partner will respect and admire. If your partner cannot plan or make good decisions and take responsibility for their actions, you will lose trust quickly. 

ISFP Love Language

As an ISFP, you are looking for a partner that will be warm and friendly, but at the same time open for honest conversation. It is important for you that your partner considers you and your feelings and needs and you trust them to care for you when things are tough. You want someone who accepts you at both your best and your worst and someone that can handle all parts of who you are. 

ISFJ Love Language

The ISFJ personality type is caring and considerate towards those they love. You like to put people at ease and to let people know they can relax and be themselves around you. You appreciate a partner who can be passionate and authentic and real. Expressive individuals who like to dance and perform or entertain themselves and others spark your interest. 

ESFJ Love Language

You like a person that is honest and simple and someone that will be laid back and open to anything. You appreciate caring for and doing things for your partner. You find yourself trying your best to charm the ones you love through kind words and nice acts of service. You like a person that will see and remember the things you do for them and someone that will understand you and what is behind your pretty personality. 

ESFP Love Language

As an ESFP, you are drawn to a simple, and easygoing personality. You like people that enjoy the good, smaller things in life, and people that can find the positive in any situation. You can be drawn to the sensitive types who can communicate with tact and care and respect and understanding. You can feel hurt by people who will be brash or abrasive or harsh in their words or actions. 

ESTP Love Language 

As an ESTP, you are someone that tends to fall in love with strong, responsible people who are secure in themselves and who they are. You like people who won’t change with the wind but who can set their foot down and stick to a decision when they make it. 

You want a partner who is consistent in their words and actions. You trust the person you love to be able to pick you up if you get into a bad situation or end up making a mistake. If you love someone, you’ll expect them to have your back and stand up for you.

Ideal Partner Personality Test

What personality type is your ideal match? 

My ideal partner test can help you reflect on and put into paper what you want or like about your partner or what you would like in a future relationship. It can also help awaken you to things you might struggle with in a relationship or what you may be lacking in current relationships.

The test takes about 5 minutes and by taking the test you can help me research into what people love and are attracted to in a potential partner, based on their own personality type. By taking the test, you will also receive the seven days to flow package with personal growth advice to kickstart your journey to flow and personal well-being.

Best of luck!

The personality types in numbers

My personality test not only demonstrates astoundingly strong statistics and proof of 16 different personality types but also reveals a connection between personality type and cognitive function use. In today’s article, we are looking at some of the 16 personality types in statistics and seeing what the average version of each personality type looks like. We are also going to discuss just why my personality test is so effective in predicting your flow type.

My personality test is a cognitive function test that gives a dichotomy result. Every single question measures for one cognitive function. You will get a score on the dichotomies based on a unique weighing algorithm that I invented. This means anyone who has a high score on Introverted iNtuition will get a higher result on Introversion and iNtuition.

The Average INFJ

If you got the INFJ personality type you will show a result on average like this:

The Average ESTP

To no surprise, the average ESTP is on average one of the more assertive personality types, and INFJs are among the top 5 least assertive personality types.

The Average INFJ in Cognitive Functions

The Average ESTP Cognitive Functions

Looking at these numbers, we can learn a lot of interesting things. First, there is a demonstrable relationship between your personality type dichotomies, and which cognitive functions you use. This means, for example, that an INFJ has a comparatively high Introverted iNtuition (Ni), and a reasonably strong Extroverted Feeling (Fe). Similarly, an ESTP has a strong Extroverted Sensing and a relatively strong Introverted Thinking. The statistics to support this are extremely strong and to me proof that there is something to the idea of Carl Jung’s eight cognitive functions.

How did I make such a strong personality test?

My personality test is data-driven which means I test every single question based on how well it performs on each personality type. If I can see that an ESTP answers a high number on a question meant to measure Introverted iNtuition, that is proof that the question is not working. If they answer low on question number two, which is meant for Introverted iNtuition, that’s a good sign. 2 is a strong result, 2,5 is acceptable, 3 could be better. I use trial and error to find the best questions to ask and to make sure the questions are working as intended.

Flow Type 2 Ni9 Ne10 Ne17 Si18 Si1 Ni25 Se26 Se
ENFP3554254,53
ENTP3553254,54
ESFP245523,555
ESTP2,54442356
INFJ55443542
INTJ55353642
ISFJ43254443
ISTJ33254443
Totalsumma45442543

Here you see the results for Feeling and Thinking functions.

Flow Type5 Fi6 Fi13 Ti14 Ti21 Fe22 Fe29 Te
ENFJ5442554
ENTJ5253435
ESFJ5442544
ESTJ4252435
INFP6554443
INTP5455234
ISFP6443444
ISTP5365325
Totalsumma5453444

What Personality Type is X?

I developed this test to help people learn how to type and profile friend’s and family members. Use this test to figure out the type of your friends or family members, or test your friends and family members and see how they would describe you!

I developed this test to help you get on paper an objective method to type other people. Personality profiling would be a lot more accurate if we not just tried to guess the type of another person but instead went through, step by step, what we see in the other person and learned to balance out and note down everything we saw about a person.

If you want help figuring out somebody’s personality type, become a Patron at www.patreon.com/erikthor for 20$ or more. If you want to find out your own type, take the Flow Type test here.

Why ENFPs Aren’t Naive

One of my readers came to me yesterday with a few fascinating questions about the ENFP Personality Type. I am going to answer them briefly, and then I am going to explain them more in depth for you.

Are ENFPs Naive?

No.

Are ENFPs People-Pleasers?

It’s complicated.

Are ENFPs Melodramatic?

Only if you are melodramatic towards them, first.

These are all very good questions and they make sense when you read articles about the ENFP personality type online.

Recommended reads: Why I love ENFPs

Why I Love My ENFP as an INFJ

Why ENFPs Aren’t Naive

ENFPs dream both high and low. This means ENFPs are star-seekers. They aim high and set their aims to the sky when happy and cheerful. They become critical and pessimistic under stress. This means you will see two sides to the ENFP. The normal part of them wants and thrives on the unrealistic ideal. They want the best things possible in the world for themselves and for other people.

The darker part of them knows they are being unrealistic – and is constantly picking apart everything they do. So how are you going to do that? I can’t see how you would fare any better this time than usual. Once again, you’re setting yourself up to fail. ENFPs past their teenage years have developed a relationship to this voice and so they are able to think highly critically about their own ideals. They know, after some point of growth and maturity, that their dreams can only happen if they work hard for it and set some rules for themselves.

The paradox of the ENFP is that they wear rose coloured glasses during the day and black tinted glasses at night. They are both the rainbow and the sunshine and the moon and the darkness, it depends on if you catch them at their best, or at their worst.

Why ENFPs Aren’t People Pleasers

While Feeling types are generally more likely to be people pleasers than Thinking types, ENFPs are also Perceiving types. ENFPs that are stronger in Perceiving than they are in Feeling will show less of an inclination to “people please”. Perceiving is correlated with Individualism and Enneagram Type Four. ENFPs who are strong in Perceiving tend to be more guarded about their identity and needs. They are more likely to look out for themselves and their own beliefs.

In balanced ENFPs, I see the following trend. ENFPs are incredibly compassionate yet also extremely individualistic. They avoid nonprofit work and helping and supporting other people because they want to protect their own freedom and individuality. But they instead rely on more “free” and “open ended” ways to help and support the community. They may enjoy gift-giving and cheering up and spontaneously caring for another person. They may dislike doing chores for their loved ones and hate feeling tied down or expected to care for or have to support another person.

They are very protective of their rights and do not want to be taken advantage of or manipulated into anything. If you do not expect it, they will be highly caring to you. But if you demand it from them, they will be incredibly cold towards you.

Are ENFPs Melodramatic?

What I see with the ENFP stereotype is a picture of the ENFP as high strung, enthusiastic, crazy, free-spirited, wild, and theatrical. Many picture the ENFP as melodramatic. I think this is an Extroverted stereotype of the ENFP and less Extroverted ENFPs will disagree with this picture.

The stronger the presence of Extroverted Thinking and Extroverted iNtuition in this type, the more “reckless” this type may appear. The more Perceiving, and the more Introverted the subtype of this ENFP, the more relaxed the personality type will appear. ENFPs that are high on Perceiving tend to be more observant. That means they study and react of the room.

That is why I say, ENFPs will only be melodramatic if you are. I say it tongue in cheek, I just mean that ENFPs are not going to be aggressively melodramatic, and that they will not be theatrical unless provoked. If you do not respond to their enthusiasm or cheer, they will quickly tone it down and match your calm. If you provoke or get a rise out of them, or join them in their cheer, they will cheer more loudly too.

Read more about the ENFP Personality Type:

ENFP Personality Type ‘The Dreamer’

Are you an ENFP or an ENFP and do you identify as naive, people-pleasing, or melodramatic? Let me know in the comments below what you think about the ENFP stereotypes.

The Stress Code: What Personality Type Are You Under Stress?

MBTI Personality Survey, Corona Survey, MBTI Survey, Personality Survey

The situation since the past weeks has hit me really hard. I have felt so anxious lately. My thoughts are everywhere and I find it hard to focus on anything. I am constantly overwhelmed. As I collected those thoughts in myself I thought I wanted to check in with all of you. How are you doing? That’s why I’m doing a survey on the impact of stress on your personality.

While everyone has a flow type, reflecting who they are in a positive state of flow and well-being, the Corona crisis has had a major impact on our personality and behaviour. Today, help me research and understand better how the Corona crisis has impacted you personally. Are you feeling like a different person than usual?

How have you been changed or impacted by everything that is happening around you? Take my survey and help me find out how different types respond to the situation. Has your personality or behaviour changed since these events in any specific way and has this had an impact on your health or well-being? Are you in touch with yourself and how are you managing?

I designed this test to help people find their way back to being themselves even though they feel stress or anxiety about a situation. I think while it is important we make many changes in our lifestyle during these times, it is also important that you can find joy and well-being during even the most difficult situations. I hope this personality survey can be a step in the right direction. I will be looking through the results later and I hope to get a better understanding of how different types are impacted by stress and I hope to share the results with all of you soon. Thank you for the help!

Ways Sensing Types Are Better Than You

While it’s easy to develop a bias and to get caught in us vs them thinking, there are many reasons not to underestimate Sensory types. First, let’s talk about the upper edge. The reason why Sensory types tend to be more successful than iNtuitives. Then, let’s talk about how Sensory types use iNtuition differently and ways Sensory types out-intuit iNtuitives. This article can help you as an iNtuitive connect better with sensory types and it can help Sensory types better recognise their own strengths and abilities.

The Upper Edge – Why Sensory Types Outcompete Intuitives

While iNtuitives learn faster, Sensory types have more grit. That means they will sit down longer with and study harder than the average iNtuitive. They are more resilient and dwell less long on mistakes and failures. They are good at keeping a steady course in life. Sensory types will put in more effort into what they do.

They do not get distracted as easily and can maintain attention and focus on a task longer. They get tired less quickly and show more strength in everyday situations. Sensory types think more practically and socially about life and work harder to stay useful and relevant to society. They will pursue more relevant education and more direct strategies to succeed. They ask their community what is requested and then they present this to their community.

Being a Sensory type is not without its share of struggles and problems. Your type can get stuck easily and you can sometimes be too afraid of change. You may ignore ideas that you consider unfeasible, only to later see them grow to become highly profitable. As a Sensory type, you may miss out on chances and new opportunities. As an Intuitive type, you can learn a lot from the Sensing type. Think: How could I become more successful by developing more grit? You might wonder “How can I learn to work harder?” How can I procrastinate less on my ideas? Those are great questions.

How Sensory Types Use iNtuition

First, we have two groups of Sensory types. iNtuitive Third and iNtuitive Last types.

iNtuitive Third types are people that rely on iNtuition everyday as a tool or means to an end. They see iNtuition and brainstorming, and creativity, as ways to solve practical problems that they encounter in life. If there is an issue in the world or in their community, they will use creativity to come up with ideas.

iNtuitive Last types are people that use iNtuition with extreme or unusual conscientiousness. They work harder to fact-check their iNtuition and want to back up assumptions or theories with real data. If there is a new idea or a change in the world, they want to manage this change using Sensing. You run experiments and you think of processes and methods to manage change correctly. You are afraid of getting intuition wrong. And you may worry of acting on false beliefs.

iNtuitive Third Types

ISTPs, ISFPs, ESFJs and ESTJs are iNtuitive Third types. They have Control iNtuition. That means they use iNtuition as a method to get control their situation. You will dismiss unfeasible or extreme or weird ideas while actively pursuing ideas that have immediate practical value or potential.

They will hone their iNtuition in a specific area and can even appear as iNtuitives because they can dream big or have high visions or goals in certain fields. You can be very creative when it serves a concrete value. What you have to recognise is that they will not use iNtuition for fun. They experience no joy in this and will not do it recreatively.

What can be said about this type is that they can be a lot more liberal and flexible in their iNtuition than other types. They can say any crazy idea and care little about having the facts to back it up. They don’t need it to be correct, they just need it to have the right effect in the specific situation.

Intuitive Last Types

ISTJs, ISFJs, ESFPs, and ESTPs are people that use iNtuition with high conscientiousness. While ENFPs and INFJs may go about and chase their dreams without a thought about the possibility of failure or fear, ISTJs and ESFPs are all going to look around before they cross the road at least twice.

These types want ideas to follow a straight process. They want to read the instructions before they try something new. They want to cross-reference their ideas and discuss their theories with other people in the community to make sure it’s not too far out there. As an ESTP, you want to make sure you know what you talk about. Sensory dominant types want to know what they are talking about.

They research extensively and practice often to make sure they are good at what they do. They build a reputation on knowing what they talk about and don’t say something just because it sounds nice.

Explore: Extroverted Sensing in Personality Junkie

Let me know if you want to read this article but from an iNtuitive perspective. Don’t worry, iNtuitives, you are also awesome. But don’t forget, Sensory types are cool too.

Erik Thor’s Flow Code Enneagram Test

? Completely new Enneagram Test
? Unique Testing Algorithm
? Written with love and respect for all the types

Erik Thor's Enneagram Test

This is a unique and experimental flow code Enneagram Test. What is so special about a Flow Code Enneagram Test? I study your Enneagram Type based on your thinking patterns when you are in a positive state of flow. I have studied the connections between all the Nine Enneagram Types and the Three Instincts and have learnt the difference between a Social one and a Sexual One.

This is a smart test that helps you pinpoint your true Enneagram type no matter what instinct or behavioural subtype of this type that you are. Recognising that every individual is unique and that there are many different ways to manifest the One’s sense of principles or the Two’s desire to be good, every question you answer is going to reveal multiple things about your personality. This test is made out of 32 questions and will show you which of the Enneagram types you test the most strongly for in about five minutes.

 

ESTP Sociopath Stereotype: ESTP Empathy Explained

The ESTP personality type is sometimes misunderstood as unempathetic or uncaring. This is an ESTP stereotype. While INFJs tend to become unusually cold during stress, ESTPs tend to be some of the most empathetic and sensitive to human needs during stress and anxiety.

This usually makes the ESTP ideally suited for a career as a firefighter. ESTPs are some of the personality types that will put their own interests aside to help people during difficult times and stressful situations. They often enjoy the idea of being the hero throwing themselves into the fire and being strong when nobody else dares to show strength.

Contrary to some ESTP Stereotypes, ESTPs are not aggressive types and do not tend to be bullies. They rarely fight back unless they have been provoked and will generally leave you to your own accord. They prefer to observe and read and go off the vibes they receive from other people. That means, if an ESTP does turn on you, consider what you did to escalate the situation, too. This is one reason for why I don’t normally consider Donald Trump to be an ESTP, but rather more likely, an ENTJ or ESTJ personality type.

Recommended read: Are Thinking Types More Unethical?

How ESTPs Demonstrate Empathy

No matter what personality type you are, there is a lot to learn from the ESTP personality type. The ESTP personality type tends to demonstrate empathy by teaching independence and strength. They will empower people to stand up for themselves and ask you to speak out for your needs and what you want. ESTPs can help you tune into and access your own inner strength and often do well as coaches.

How ESTPs Teach Strength

Famous Coach and motivational speaker Tony Robbins is often typed as an ESTP. Many find ESTPs incredibly motivating to be around. ESTPs are often more understanding than people expect. Just like INFJs can tune into a quiet strength in their empathy, ESTPs are able to, through hard work and self-development, develop an extraordinary understanding of the human psyche.

ESTPs respect people for their individual strength and independence and will trust in your strength more than any other type. While other people may be quick to jump in when you stumble, the ESTP will trust that you can get back up yourself. The ESTP might even think it is rude or cruel to interfere in your process.

At first, this might be hard to understand. How could it be unkind to help another person? But when you think about it more deeply, it does have a sense to it. To help another person can also be to call that person stupid or weak. It can be an insinuation that the other person is not capable of caring for themselves. And that’s how it is seen to the ESTP. Only in an absolute crisis will you see how much the ESTP truly cares. They will leave you to figure things out yourself. But if you really do hit rock bottom, they’ll be there to get you out of the situation.

ESTPs Want To Seem Strong Even When They Aren’t

This is also why the ESTP is unlikely to call on your help. To ask for your help or care would mean to admit to weakness or to not being independent enough. So do ESTPs have empathy? Yes, in the sense that they won’t let themselves weigh on your conscience. They won’t ask for your pity, and they won’t play your victim. They will not make you worry about them, and they’ll do their best to show you that they can get out of any situation on their own.

Only to the very closest, will the ESTP admit to feelings of weakness or hidden sensitivities. They will however reassure you that they do not need or want any help and that they are fully capable of getting out of the situation on their own.

Are you an ESTP, how do you experience empathy as an ESTP, and what do you think about ESTPs?

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Truity on the ESTP Personality Type

Cognitive Function Subtypes

What is your strongest cognitive function? The cognitive functions are combinations of different personality traits that together form new or unique traits. You can learn about the cognitive functions here. This article dives into the cognitive functions as extreme subtypes. These subtypes emerge as fixations with something.

What is your strongest cognitive function? The cognitive functions are combinations of different personality traits that together form new or unique traits. You can learn about the cognitive functions here. This article dives into the cognitive functions as extreme subtypes. These subtypes emerge as fixations with something.

Cognitive Function Subtypes

Introverted iNtuitives

Fixation: The Unknown

Can’t stop obsessing over life mysteries. Driven to formulate ideas and theories with increasing complexity. Rejects anything obvious. Inattentive to their surroundings, their attention is almost always focused on thoughts and problems of a mental nature.

  • Inattentive
  • Absent minded
  • Aloof, eccentric

Introverted Sensors

Fixation: The known

Can be highly suspicious. Wants to be proven right. Needs loyalty and security from other people. Want to know people can be depended on.

  • Stubborn
  • Sceptical
  • Set in their ways

Extroverted Sensors

Fixation: Action

You want for things to always happen around you. Extroverted Sensors tend to stir up events and speak out just for the sake of having something to do. You are full of energy and find it hard to sit still or be silent.

  • Attention seeking
  • Loud
  • Reckless

Extroverted iNtuitives

Fixation: Novelty

Highly speculative, always running over options. One foot in, and one foot outside, you find it hard to commit to any one thing. You can get distracted as you want to go everywhere or do everything at the same time. It can be hard for you to prioritise. You get bored quickly if nothing new happens and you may run if you start feeling stuck or too tied down.

  • Quick-footed
  • Versatile
  • Distracted

Introverted Feeling

Fixation: Harmony

You want to surround yourself with peaceful and safe things. The Introverted Feeling Type can be highly nostalgic and want to have a positive, reassuring atmosphere. You are very focused on protecting yourself and so you avoid criticism and conflict. At times, you may refuse to entertain negative thoughts or to admit to problems or issues because you prefer to focus on your fantasy.

  • Sensitive
  • Nostalgic
  • Self-absorbed

Introverted Thinking

Fixation: Perfection

It is important for you to do things correctly and so you can have an obsession with accuracy. You want to make sure that you live and abide by your standards and expectations.

  • Principled
  • Critical
  • Trust issues

Extroverted Thinking

Fixation: Strength

It is important for you to be stronger than other people and to be seen as more capable or successful. You want to be admired and respected by other people. You like to feel like a winner and to feel that you can overcome any obstacle. Sometimes you will create enemies just to be able to prove yourself and your own power.

  • Headstrong
  • Pushy
  • Competitive

Extroverted Feeling

Fixation: Connection

You want to like everyone and to feel connected to people around you. It is important for you that people open up about their needs and feelings to you. You need to feel that people can talk to you and that you are important to the people around you.

  • Generous
  • Friendly
  • Ethical

What is your strongest cognitive function? The cognitive functions are combinations of different personality traits that together form new or unique traits. You can learn about the cognitive functions here. This article dives into the cognitive functions as extreme subtypes. These subtypes emerge as fixations with something.

INFJ Health Levels: INFJ At Their Best And Worst

What do INFJs say about how they can be at their best and worst? Personally, as an INFJ, I have seen myself move from at my worst to at my best. If you can recognise your emotional patterns you can also respond better to them when they happen and better manage your emotions.

INFJ Health Levels

Level one – INFJ Explosion

Critical Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Judging

Overwhelmed by chores and a full to-do-list. You seem to not be able to catch up with anything happening around you. That overwhelm has driven you into a frenzied state where you are constantly going a hundred miles per hour trying to keep up with everything that needs to be kept up to date with. You simply cannot prioritise – and you are now paying the prize for it. Your energy quickly seeping away, a crash is imminent. You feel furious with yourself for not being able to manage your life puzzle and emotions better.

In this state, it is best to take a step back to prioritise if possible.

Level Two – INFJ Stress

Low Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Judging

Your energy almost completely drained, you are feeling exhausted, and you’ve barely got energy for anything more than staring at a screen. But even while doing that, you simply cannot relax. You’re full of frustration for missed work and opportunities. You blame yourself for not acting earlier. People are unable to communicate with you, because you’re unable to take anything in anymore. You feel like a loser, doing nothing, and getting nowhere.

Speak kindly to yourself and recognise when you are unable to be objective about a situation.

Level Three – Redemption

/ Average Introversion
– Low Intuition
– Low Feeling
/ Average Judging

You’re feeling highly self-critical. You are analysing your every decision thinking about things you could have done better. You are being very hard on yourself. Your frustration makes you more focused and is helping you deal with things, but in a very erratic and intense manner. You are probably very hard to be around right now, as you can only see things from a very narrow perspective.

Take time to slow down and regain perspective. You are on the right track.

Level Four – INFJ Autopilot

+ High Introversion
– Low Intuition
– Low Feeling
+ High Judging

Your focus is starting to become more clear and you are starting to speak more softly to yourself. You have calmed down and you are starting to pick up the pieces, but you are feeling very tired and you do not have much energy to take action. Your focus is on dealing with the most obvious issues in your life. You are making amends and you feel a sense of guilt. You feel that you have not been able to be the person you want to be for the people in your life that you care about. You can feel stuck in a rut and unsure how to solve the problems you are facing.

Try to find some fresh perspective or ideas to feed your intuition.

Level Five – INFJ Stagnation

/ Average Introversion, Intuition, Feeling and Judging

You are kind of on the fence between an ebb and a flow. You can either fall back into guilt or frustration, or you can start to recover and reclaim some of your projects or ideas, or what is left of them. You can also choose to start fresh with a new idea or a vision if that is what you wish. You feel confusion and doubt over your future and what your next best move is in life.

With change comes some unusual doubt and uncertainty. This is natural. Don’t be afraid.

Level Six – INFJ Confidence

+ High Introversion
/ Average Intuition
/ Average Feeling
+ High Judging

You are starting to channel your focus into some tangible project or course of action. You are making some moves, but you are moving slowly and cautiously as you do. You are afraid to let yourself get too carried away. You have some doubt about if you are making the right decision or if you should start over with something else.

Level Seven – INFJ Flow

+ High Introversion
+ High Intuition
+ High Feeling
+ High Judging

You are starting to develop some passion for what you do. You feel bolder than usual and more prepared to put yourself out there. You show that you care about what you do and where you are going. You allow yourself to feel certain that you are making positive steps in your life. You feel that you are going forward.

Level Eight – INFJ Inspiration

/ Average Introversion
+ High Intuition
+ High Feeling
/ Average Judging

Your passion is starting to become more intense and you may start becoming obsessive about your ideas and projects. You spend almost every waking minute thinking about your ideas and you feel a high passion for what you do. You can appear eccentric in your hobbies, but you can recognise when you are taking things too far, and can laugh about and distance yourself from your dreams when necessary.

Level Nine – INFJ Obsession

– High Extroversion
+ High Intuition
+ High Feeling
– High Perceiving

You are racing forward towards your vision and you feel as if nothing can stop you. You may feel as if you cannot stop yourself. You are literally in overdrive, working full time on your projects.You may forget to sleep or eat because you are so focused. You may also find yourself neglecting friends and forgetting about things that are happening right in front of you. At this point, you could easily tip back over to Level One or back to Eight.

Recommended Reading:

15 Differences between INFPs and INFJs

Psychology Junkie: The Unhealthy INFJ

Which level are you at right now and do you recognise these twists and turns in yourself as an INFJ?

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