Beyond Personality Labels: Moving from Typing to True Human Connection
How personality tests help us start a conversation, and why we must look past four-letter codes to see the real human underneath.
I am Erik Thor. In my work on personality psychology, I've shown why labels and personality tests don't work and fail to describe who people are. In my book, Why I Care, I show how self-love and care for yourself and others can enrich your life more than cynicism ever could. In my career, I help companies scale and deploy AI in a human-friendly way.
"Not caring is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. Caring led me into pain, but closing off made me feel less alive. Love is the point."
Family & Life: Married to Nina Kutschke (@ninathor_somatics), living in Uppsala, Sweden. Expecting our son on November 9th.
Focus Areas: Personality psychology, Salesforce IT architecture, artificial intelligence, and the politics of care.
Overcoming cynicism and learning to care and let things mean something. Overcoming labels and masks to see the complex person underneath. When I was younger, I thought theories could solve every problem. But theories alone kept me at a distance from people. This book marks my shift into the messy, beautiful reality of daily life, learning how to care for yourself, hold space for hard feelings, and navigate real human relationships.
Hey everyone, the name is Erik Thor and on Monday I'm releasing my first ever book, Why I Care, and you can be one of the first to back and support the book before it even goes into print.
First of all, Why I Care is a book about letting go of masks and labels and finding who it is that you really are. What is important to you and what do you want from your life? Not what other people want from you, but what you want from your life if you go your own way and do the things that mean something to you.
The psychologist Carl Jung spoke a lot about masks. When we think about masks, we often think about people like politicians, people that are fake, or people that pretend to be something they're not. But we all carry masks and social roles. And the expectations we put on ourselves about who we are supposed to be at work, with friends, or with family can become silent prisons. The truth is everyone gets stuck in masks, and it can be hard to find who it is that is you outside of the role.
How many times do you tell yourself when you wake up in the morning: "I should go to the gym today," "I should do the laundry," "I should, I should, I should"? Where does this word "should" come from? Where do these expectations come from? And where does wanting come from? How do we learn to want? How do we learn how to care about something that for us right now feels like a chore, a must, a requirement—something we're doing for the sake of somebody else, or to please somebody else, or to make our parents proud?
It's exhausting, isn't it? But it doesn't have to be that way. That's why I tell people to develop and find their own inner compass—to learn to reflect on your own values, wants, needs, desires, and what is inside of you.
In my book, I speak about eight core human values. And I speak about eight things we should care about, because to me, we need to learn how to care. We need to learn to overcome our cynicism and tap into our own heart.
I speak about authenticity and the importance of caring for yourself and your innermost thoughts and feelings. I speak about the importance of caring for your work, caring for your future, and caring for nature. To me, nature is really, really important.
But the key goal for you is to find out what is important for you. And you can use this book to reflect and reason about what really matters to you in your life for yourself.
Thank you all for supporting and being a part of this launch.
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Available for pre-order from 14th September. Overcoming cynicism and learning to care and let things mean something. Overcoming labels and masks to see the complex person underneath.
How personality tests help us start a conversation, and why we must look past four-letter codes to see the real human underneath.
Why machine intelligence should deepen self-reflection rather than automate our human thinking away.
Moving past rage and outrage toward durable, local human care and community engagement.
Growing up in Northern Sweden, I took an early interest in books, fantasy, and philosophy. At age thirteen, I formulated what I called the Balance Theory, a Taoist approach to happiness through aligning opposites. I wanted to find ideas that help people live more harmonious lives instead of fighting with one another.
Studied rhetoric, philosophy, and sociology at university, alongside the works of Carl Jung and Alfred Adler. I view personality not as a rigid box or four-letter code, but as a spectrum for self-development and personal growth.
Over 1,000 educational videos produced across YouTube channels reaching 50,000 subscribers. By day, designing enterprise Salesforce CRM systems and AI developer pipelines; by evening, writing essays and building psychometric platforms.
After living in the Netherlands (2016 to 2023) and Barcelona (2024), I returned to Uppsala, Sweden. I am married to Nina Kutschke (@ninathor_somatics), and we are expecting our son on November 9th.