You are inquisitive, and on a search for right and wrong. You ask questions and explore new ideas inside yourself or in the world around you. Some 5s are highly focused, searching expertise. Some are more broad-minded, learning a little about everything.
The Enneagram 5 type finds it hard to feel happy. Often, they will overthink a situation. Their desire to understand and their general tendency to question everything can keep them from feeling happy or relaxed about a situation. An Enneagram 5 fears being put on the spot or being caught unaware or oblivious of something. Competency is key to this type, but this type never feels truly competent in anything. Instead, they feel that there is always more to learn.
Enneagram 5 Short Description
Nickname: The Sage, The Scholar, The Hermit
Mindset: “I just need a little bit longer to figure this stuff out.”
Negative emotion: Self-doubt
Positive emotion: Wisdom
Enneagram 5 At Their Best (And Worst)
It can be hard to get close to an Enneagram 5 type because they bond with their head, rather than their heart. While they are as capable of having emotions and attachments as any other type, they will often seek to withdraw to process and explain their feelings to make sure they are fully secure. And while this can be healthy, at times it can also keep them from connecting with other people.
While they are stuck thinking about and processing something, the people around them are forced to keep living life and eventually have to make a decision on whether to move on. Missed opportunities will typically leave a big scar on this type. Unlike the type 7, this type hates being in a rush and would preferably remain on the drawing table indefinitely.
Growing up, this type may have felt that their parents or close ones never gave them enough attention. No matter how good they did, their parents would never compliment them or show appreciation towards them. Perhaps they would even experience direct rejection, being called stupid, ignorant, slow or clumsy.
This kind of criticism would get them to withdraw or become overly cautious. In school, they’d sit in the back or away from everyone so nobody would ask them anything. At work, they’d let other people take the lead, because they were afraid of saying or doing something stupid. Often, because they would speak with doubt or uncertainty, people would not take them seriously and would assume they must be wrong.