TYPE FOUR. Let's talk about the Enneagram 4 wing 5 and Enneagram 4 wing 3. Those that identify with the Type Four Individualist are often Rebels and Free spirits. You are someone that has often felt different from other people. You live and think on a different frequency and see things from unusual perspectives.
Because you think about life differently, you have often had a hard time connecting with other people. You may often experience disagreements with other people. At your worst, you can feel shame because you're not like everyone else. At your best, you feel pride in that you have unique talents and capabilities that set you apart from other people. Today we will talk about the Type Four. What is the Enneagram 4 like during stress? And what is the Type Four like in love?
The Type Four comes from the healthy and honourable goal of being original. You want to see things in a new light. You reject the status quo and seek to make your own path in life. This goal can however become unhealthy when you reject the status quo for the wrong reasons. The Type Four can become isolated from other people, because you can feel anger or frustration with the way things are. It is hard for you to feel satisfied with what is and you long for more. You're often second guessing and analysing your own decisions, looking for a new choice or option that you had previously missed.
As a Four, your emotions are often intense and sometimes messy. You have often felt that you feel things more deeply than other people and that you care more than most. Sometimes, you can feel frustrated that other people are so apathetic to life. Ethics are important to you, and you want to do what is right even if it puts you in conflict with the group and the existing norms in the world.
As a type four, you don't like to be told what to do. Force or pressure will only make you resist more. You can find it hard to accept the authority of a parent, teacher or boss. You need to feel accepted and given freedom to make what you think is the best decision.
Enneagram 4 wing 3 wants to prove their unique capabilities to the world. You may feel that other people don't understand you or your unique gifts. You dream of being seen and showing other people that you have a unique role to play in the world. At the same time, you don't want to succeed just by doing what everyone else does. You may struggle to put yourself out there because how can you demonstrate value to a world that you are often suspicious or critical of? There can be a fear that your success would come at the cost of what made you special to begin with.
As an Enneagram 4 wing 5, you are often estranged from other people. Other people don't see the world like you do, and this can cause frustration for you. You may feel that other people are stupid or ignorant of how the world really is. You would therefore like to enlighten people on hidden secrets and reveal mysteries to other people. Still, it can be difficult for you that other people don't see things the way you do and you often feel misunderstood.
The Enneagram 4 is one of the three heart types. You are intense, at times self-absorbed, and deeply freedom-loving. You are an individualist and original mind with a strong sense of purpose and identity.
The type four in love seeks someone who accepts you exactly the way you are. As a type four, you don't want to compromise to fit in with a partner. You want to feel understood and seen. At worst, it can feel hard for you to feel content with a partner, and you can feel like you are not fully heard or seen in relationships.
At your best, you are a positive example and one of the best and most excellent at what you do. You find a sense of purpose in who you are and trust in your powers to excel at what is most important to you.
During times of stress, the type Four may start to rebel against what is, breaking out of relationships or jobs they feel are constricting.