Unsure about what Enneagram type you are? So is the Peacemaker! Today we will talk about the Enneagram 9 wing 1 and the Enneagram 9 wing 8 and we will learn what makes this type special. What are some enneagram 9 careers and what is the Enneagram 9 in love like?
Firstly, I know it can be tricky to tell what Enneagram type you are at times. But there is a lot of value to understanding your mindset and how you think. So how do you know if you are a Peacemaker?
Sound like you yet? Keep reading to learn more about the Enneagram 9 wing 1 and Enneagram 9 wing 8 variations. Take my Enneagram Test to see what type comes out highest.
As a Peacemaker, you have the goal of harmony. To be in harmony means to be fully content. You want to be at peace with yourself and the world. Often, conflict is a big stressor for you, and so you work hard to keep the balance in your life and in your relationships.
The Enneagram 9 wing 1 fears criticism and works to keep other people happy. The Enneagram 9 wing 8 seeks to avoid stress and heavy demands and seeks an easy life. The healthy part of a Peacemaker is that at your best, you are a relaxing, easygoing person. People feel safe and at ease around you. But when unhealthy, this type will often avoid necessary conflict. You may struggle to set boundaries. You are too eager to agree and compromise with other people, that you can easily become used by other people.
Perhaps growing up, you felt that you were always second place to everyone else. Often, the Peacemaker fears that they are redundant or useless to other people. If they speak out for themselves, they worry that they will be disconnected from other people. For you, compromise has become a survival mechanism in order to fit in and to avoid the anger of the group.
As an Enneagram 9 wing 1, you work hard to stand above criticism. It is important for you to keep other people happy and so you work to please the people around you. You may be sensitive to feedback and you often think that other people are angry or displeased with you.
Fearing that other people are upset with you, you work to make amends by taking care of any chores or tasks that will bring back the peace. It is common for this type to become highly cautious. You may avoid to take on work or to take action because you worry that other people will disagree with you or question your results. This will cause other people to see you as lazy or avoidant. But it's not that you don't want to do things, it's that you want to do them the right way. You may worry too much about the results or fear failure.
The Enneagram 9 wing 8 is different from the 9 wing 1 in that they are more focused on the external than the internal. You are often perceived as a bit chaotic, as you try to meet everyone's expectations. You are often overburdened as you try to work an entire group project on your own. Quick to say yes, you take on responsibility easily. You want to please everyone, but that is often impossible.
Being a bit all over the place, people will question you on unfinished or rushed work. Some will see you as irresponsible or unreliable, as they know you have a tendency to agree with them, but in the end, do something completely different. It's not intentional. You try your best, and your intentions are good. You just need to learn to be more realistic about your time and become better at prioritising.
It takes time for an Enneagram 9 to decide that they are in fact, in love. You often doubt your feelings about other people. Most of the time, you focus on what other people feel about you. Don't focus too much on your partner but also recognise your own feelings.
Once you have made up your mind about someone and committed to a relationship, it is important that you establish boundaries quickly. You may be so focused on pleasing your partner that you agree to do things or compromise your personality for the other person. Over time, this can lead to frustration with your partner, so be upfront about your needs and values.
You may do well as a social worker, or in human relations, as a psychiatrist or a librarian. You can be a gifted problem solver and a mediator in your team.
Under stress, the type Nine can become insecure and start second guessing themselves. You may question relationships and start to worry about losing your job, like an unhealthy Type Six.
When at your best, you are high-performing, ambitious and proactive. You feel pride in your accomplishments and feel that you are able to meet others expectations in you, like a healthy Type Three.
Watch this video to hear my thoughts and opinions on the Enneagram 9 type.