Impressions: Extraverted Feeling
Extraverted Feeling, Carl Jung described as the interest in how people feel and the understanding of what people value and like. Extraverted feelers are concerned with social connections, relations, and bonds with people and animals. Extraverted feeling types are gifted at social interactions and interpersonal relations, and good at fitting in and reading people. When describing Extraverted Feeling, Carl Jung spoke much of what was described as suitable and proper.
The extraverted feeling type had strong values, but often desired to make these values more objective and a part of mainstream culture. How should we all feel? What is the right way to think about life’s matters? The extraverted feeling type has an active way of feeling. They express high warmth and passion.
They demonstrate their feelings to others, and they desire emotional input and reception from others. Metaphorically speaking, the relation process can be described as this bond or this instant feeling or reaction as you see something. Hearts, stars, images, flying around as you look at something, reactions that let you know how you feel about the things you see. Bonds help you know what you like and dislike, and what is beautiful and ugly to you. It gives you instant impressions about things, like nature, people, and animals. A person with a strong Impressions process always has instant personal feedback to offer you. To them, the world around them is experienced in strong aesthetically detail.
Jung spoke much of how this function manifested in a need for a suitable way to feel. The extraverted feeling type wants their emotions to be appropriate, and towards the right person, in the right age. It troubles the extraverted feeling type when this is not the case, and when their emotions are more banal or weird. Because of this, extraverted feelers spend much time discussing their emotions and how they feel and whether their feelings are appropriate or not. Questions of “what is normal” and “what is beautiful” and “what is good” are important to these types. The question for this type is often, how do I love others, and what is the right way to treat others?
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The extraverted feeling type feels at their best when they can know what everyone around them is thinking and feeling. They take pride in knowing what people want, what people like, and what people dislike. They feel less certain however, about what they, themselves want. They worry that what they feel is inappropriate or that other people will judge them for it.
When the extraverted feeling type has a value judgement about something, about how to dress, look, act, or behave in groups, they share it with others. They place high regard in the collective opinion and what the group values and does not value. What the group wants, can become important for how the extraverted feeling type chooses to dress, behave, and conduct themselves in society.
But beyond making this type a passive type that does whatever the group says, this gives the type a high amount of influence in deciding what is appropriate. The extraverted feeling type not only follows, but also plays a part in deciding what is right or wrong in our social circles.
The extraverted feelers may feel like something is wrong with them for what they feel, and so, often, they feel a strong need to confirm their feelings to other people. Do you also feel this way, or am I just crazy? An extraverted feeling type may ask. They ground their values with the group, and they make their minds known to others.
When they can’t express it publicly, they may feel like they are walking around constantly ashamed or anxious, carrying other people’s judgement of them in their own head. And when they feel judged or excluded from a social setting, they may often disappear from the crowd completely, pulling themselves into a technical task, learning a skill, or improving themselves in some way.
The extraverted feeling type has a desire to make their experiences and values more objective by testing it’s value to the general public and to their friendship circles. They spend much time discussing what’s appropriate and inappropriate, good etiquette, and social conduct. They have many opinions on dressing choices, fashion, and moral conduct, and are not strangers to expressing their judgements publicly.
The person who develops their extraverted feeling could be said to be a gifted people-person. Easily liked, and able to move in any environment. Often popular at parties and events, and good at making connections and bonds with others. This is the stereotypical extravert, sociable and good at connecting people. Interpersonal intelligence is the ability to understand people and social issues. A person with high interpersonal intelligence has a higher understanding of social expressions, norms, and values in groups. They know what’s in and what’s out and what is appropriate and inappropriate.
The types with the highest interpersonal intelligence can help people find appropriate and ethical ways to express their feelings and viewpoints. They often discuss subjects as what is right and wrong in a relation, how you should treat others, and how to manage conflicts. The types with the highest interpersonal intelligence have a knack for understanding people, and can easily mimic others characteristics. They know when they’ve been mistreated and when something is abnormal in a relation.
The Actor (EXFX)
Interpersonal intelligence is the ability to consider perspectives of others and to understand others opinions and beliefs. A person with high interpersonal intelligence is quickly able to deduce another person’s motives and the reasons behind their actions. They can read and understand social behaviour well and have a keen eye to how other people think and feel.
A person with interpersonal intelligence may quickly figure out how other people see them and what other people think about them. They also understand how they influence other people.
A person who is effortlessly able to consider others perspectives and values can be described as an actor. And the actor can most of all be described to have a repressed introverted thinking. While they find connections, people, and the opportunity to learn about their stories and values meaningful and important, mechanics just strike actors as boring. The more you know about how something works and what secret techniques you can use to control the world and to rise in status, the more boring and meaningless the pursuit appears. The actor would much rather just get there informally, through following their gut, their social judgement, and their desire to connect with other people.
The core drive of someone with high interpersonal intelligence can be described as to achieve oneness – full, unrestricted connection and access to other people. The ability to understand everything about another person, and to always feel connected to them.
- The ability to quickly understand how a group works
- Knowledge of what other people think and feel
- Awareness of your different roles in different groups