Communication Intelligence (Feeling Judging)


The Diplomat, The Representative, The Servant

Cognitive function

Feeling Judging (XXFJ)




Communication Intelligence


Social Memory

Core Value

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The Diplomat (Feeling Judging)

The diplomat is and works hard to be the peoples elected representative, to have the favour and appreciation of other people. The Feeling Judging type works to gain the favour of other people through acts of kindness. Through engaging in communication with other people, and through influencing them in various ways, the diplomat hopes to serve and support the people around them. 

Feeling Judging types are primarily focused on what they can do for other people. The focus is on what they can do to support their values in the longer perspective. The hope is that through diplomacy and through building their position in the community, they will be able to achieve lofty and personal goals. Their identity is therefore important – the diplomat is often a gifted speaker, a charmer, a sweet talker. They believe in cooperation with others and that cooperation will give them success. Two can do more than one, so the diplomat is focused on what we all can achieve if we work together. 

Managing and guiding other people, the diplomat types like to bridge peoples different values and needs. Looking at other people and at themselves, what do we want? How can we all get what we want? What can we do to support one another in our missions? Feeling Judging has a tendency to kill many birds with one stone: it brings together values into an ideology and makes us all feel connected to a shared cause.

The Benevolent Type

Feeling and judging basically translates to our “Better judgement”. We may have various feelings and experiences in the moment, but feeling judging types know to separate between this and what they believe will be best in the long run. Focused on long-term emotional goals, diplomat types tend to see how to express their emotions to get what they want. 

The process starts by recognising that you are sad, happy, or upset, and then thinking about how you can convey this to other people. This roughly translates to communication intelligence, as we begin to realise that our emotions can be misunderstood or interpreted different by other people. We realise that our sadness can upset other people, or that our joy may be inappropriate in the situation. 

Our better judgement allows us to show kindness and consideration to other people. Their experience becomes as important as our own, and we become more focused on supporting both experiences. Feeling judging types look at how their expressions and words influence other people and see how to help support other peoples feelings. They seek to provide emotional validation to others, to provide counsel, to show kindness and goodwill. 

Communication Intelligence

Because feeling judging types remember well how their actions and expressions influence other people, they can change and adjust their choice of words. This helps them become better understood. They can speak in ways that will be easily heard by other people. If they fail to convince someone else, they can adjust their rhetoric. 

Their communication intelligence grows with each interaction and they can become gifted speakers in this sense. Communication intelligence is also knowing what symbols to address and how to speak to someone. It employs etiquette, code of conduct. Know your words, know your values, know what people like and what they dislike. Think about what is right or wrong ethically. If you want a person to feel better when they are going through times of difficulty, you have to know what to say to make them feel better. 

Communication types are not necessarily intelligent when it comes to reading or knowing other people, but they know how to speak in a general sense. This also helps them with managing strangers and people they do not know, as well as dealing with groups and crowds. Communication intelligence is literally addressed in how we speak. It is rehearsing how to speak, finding the right word and deciding how to phrase or explain something.

Social Memory

Because of this, Diplomats tend to have an excellent social memory. They tend to remember how people react to and perceive different words and gestures. They notice things about social interactions and what people tend to like and dislike, and become genuinely good at communicating themselves because of this. They can also remember nice tidbits about the people they talk to, what to say and do, what they like to talk about and more. All these excellent traits help Diplomats become masters of social interaction and diplomacy.


There are four dominant attitudes in feeling and judging. Some feeling judging types use their abilities as politicians, others are more careful and diplomatic. Some are more proactive and outspoken, like the “Ideals.” Others use it to mentor and guide others. 

FJ-8 The Politician

The politician prides themselves on right speech and on good communication. The desire is to shape the world according to their personal judgement, wanting other people and the people around them to adopt their beliefs and values. 


FJ-9 The Diplomat

The Diplomat values having a balanced and fair judgement and wants to first and foremost listen to and show understanding of other people. Priding themselves on good and respectful conduct, they want to be good people. To show good conduct and to live in a way that is balanced and fair, integrating their ethics with the values of their community.


FJ Hero – The Ideal

The Feeling Judging hero aspires towards showing ideal and high judgement, doing and saying the right thing in every situation. The goal is to speak and behave in a way that sets a positive example for other people, to always do the right thing and to show good character and conduct. 


FJ-1 The Mentor


The FJ-1 wants to be a mentor and to listen and to guide the people around them according to their ideals. At times they may struggle with pushing their personal opinions on other people, at other times they can help their friends and family through difficult situations.  
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