Honesty

What is honesty?

The virtue of honesty is found the most in XXFPs, and in people that seek an authentic self-expression, in which their words, expressions, and behaviour truly reflects their inner life. People who value the virtue of honesty tend to be described as natural, real, modest, and humble individuals. This can for example include INFPs, ENFPs, ISFPs, and ESFPs.

Honesty is a positive virtue in music and art which is often about challenging fakeness and revealing deeper things about us as human beings. Honesty is also an important quality for a reporter or journalist, and people who value honesty can often channel this into a need to discover the truth about people.

Visual characteristics:

People who value honesty tend to have more warm and emotional reactions, showing visible authentic pain, joy, relief, and anger, without trying to guard their true feelings on the subject. Often, the voice tends to have an authentic or pained quality, and when reporters articulate words, their words will often “break” and crack unexpectedly, as if these types can’t help but express emotion and show distress. 

The open-minded jaw is hallmark here, relaxed, free-flow, and often pulled back, showing that the person is open to listen, and emotionally open to what you have to say. This is paired with feeling or appearing less sure of yourself, and appearing guarded or as if you don’t want to share, because you fear being judged for what you share.

The Reporter

Truth is however, often a question of perception, and we all perceive things differently. There are always multiple sides to the coin, and the reporter knows this. The reporters goal here is to get the different sides of truth out: to make sure everyone’s voice has been heard and all arguments have been voiced.

They may tell you “It’s important that people hear your side of the story.” in times of social outrage. In other ways, these types may struggle with sharing and asserting themselves. Because truth is always nuance, always complicated, always different to every person, it is harder to feel confident and sure of yourself. Because of this, it’s often hard for many reporters to take initiative, to speak out, to hold presentations and assert themselves at work. “Who am I to..?” is a question I often hear from Reporters.

Yes, who are you? If you develop a strong identity and can maintain your individuality, it can become easier to champion yourself and to take space in the world. Often, mature Reporters will develop a very honest, real, and vibrant individuality. They tend to stand out as cultural icons with a strongly developed personal taste, personal hobbies, unique interests, talents, and behavioural quirks. 

Listening Intelligence

Reporters tend to show high listening intelligence. They listen carefully and can understand what people say better than most people. They are able to notice when something seems genuine or ingenuine. They pay careful attention to a story to make sure it adds up. They think about how they would have acted or how they would have handled a situation and they think about how people act and conduct themselves in these situations. 

Story Memory

The more you are able to remember about what someone has said and the more details and nuances you can keep in your head after reading a story or watching a movie, the better your story memory. With story memory, we can more easily notice contradictions and when details do not add up. 

We can also use our listening to remember what someone has told us and to pass it on to other people in an as exact and honest way as possible. This is a great quality of a Reporter, to be able to hear what someone has said, and then to forward it to the community so other people can become aware of it too. 

What is truth?

There are three core flavors of truth. These depend on your personal experiences with being honest and sharing with other people.

Enneagram Sx – Raw Truth

A person that has had negative experiences may come to believe that truth is always something raw, harsh, or cold. A person who has come to believe that truth is something raw is inclined to believe that people who are kind or sweet are more dishonest. This may come from a feeling of having been betrayed as a child by one’s parents or people who you have looked up to.

When we believe in raw truth, we struggle to believe in people. We doubt their words and we ask many questions, prodding and prying and sometimes interrogating people to find out the “real story”. We are more inclined to believe people when they say something harsh here. Enneagram Sxs fearful tendency can drive this search for the “hard truth”. Their need for deeper, real connection is often kept in check by their fear that people are not being real and deep enough with them, or that people would leave them if they went “too far” in sharing their personal truth. To the person who values raw truth highly, truth is always an embarassing confession about who you really are.

Enneagram 3 – Sensational Truth

A feeling of not being listened to or heard may drive us to favor sensational, bizarre, or extreme displays of truth and honesty. We may as kids have tried to tell people about things, but feeling that people didn’t hear us, we started pursuing a more sensational, provoking display of truth. Speaking with a louder voice, screaming out truth, or expressing truth in the most harsh and polarising manner, to create conflict, intrigue, and laughter with your message.

The goal is to get the truth out, but often the method here is questionable. The truth risks becoming shallow and the message distorted, and the risk is that your message becomes a stereotype of your message, instead of real, deeper truth. To the person that values sensational truth, truth is always an extreme, a provocation, something people do not want to hear but need to hear regardless.

Enneagram 9 – Sweet honesty

If you grew up in a household where people would get upset at you or wouldn’t believe you even though you were telling the truth, you may come to become more guarded and fearful of sharing your truth with other people.

This results in the total repression of your truth and your voice and Enneagram 9 types that value honesty may find themselves seeing and noticing things, but struggling to tell their friends the honesty that they see.

The repressed truth is however always pulling at you, and you want to share it, and it’s always resting beneath the surface, and you find yourself looking for other ways to get people to find out the truth, through secret notes or more careful strategies of communication.