INFJ Self-destructiveness | The INFJ Personality Type is a master of many things, sadly, one of them is self-destructive and INFJ passive-aggressiveness. But why and what are the common self-destructive tendencies of the INFJ personality type? Discover that and more in today's article!
I have identified five key self-destructive patterns in the INFJ Personality Type:
Ultimately, all of these patterns can lead to problems in life, in connecting with and having relationships with others.
So what can INFJ do to recognise and address these patterns in themselves? Let's talk about INFJ Self-destructiveness.
The INFJ personality type, because of Introverted iNtuition and Extroverted Feeling being the dominant tendencies in the personality, tends to regard itself as a non-human, spiritual entity that encompasses the needs of the people and humanity as a whole. Because Extroverted iNtuition and Introverted Feeling are unconscious, these are perceived as outside entities. The INFJ is more like a cloud, encompassing and feeling oneness with all.
Individuality and freedom are real and important things, but the INFJ is detached from these concepts and does not consider it for themselves. No matter if you are feeling healthy or not at the time, failure to integrate with and recognise your own individuality and freedom, and your own rights as an individual, will lead to a slow disintegration of the self. Ultimately, you must learn to see yourself and your own needs and to recognise your own humanity in yourself.
Failure to recognise your own needs and to express yourself authentically will lead to a slow spiral. The problem is, sometimes, this process will feel good and positive. During positive phases, you are feeling great. You are connecting with and relating to people, you are helping others, and you are being a positive force in the universe. You feel good, as you can see that other people are happy and appreciate your efforts. However, white clouds soon turn dark. Eventually, this feeling passes, and there is a feeling of failure and emptiness. People are being miserable, you are not able to help everyone, there is pain in the world, and you are powerless or incompetent to stop it.
The first step is recognising that seemingly positive actions, like putting others needs before your own, or connecting with and making other people feel seen, can be negative, if you do it the wrong way.
As a partner, friend or family member of an INFJ, you too can help combat INFJ self-destructiveness.
Are you an INFJ or a friend of an INFJ? What are your observations about this tendency in INFJs?
More about INFJ desintegration in this video.