NF – The Dreamers

The dreamers are idealistic, positive, and humanistic. In flow, they tend to be benevolent, kind, and giving types. They enjoy giving and sharing with the world. They are open and curious, seeking wisdom, insight, and understanding. They believe in magic and dreams and a utopia.

What is a dreamer?

Dreamers see what the world could be, using their imagination. They see a world that can grow and mature and fall into place. iNtuitive and Feeling, NFs embody the spirit of seekers, sages, magicians, and lovers. Their focus is on their feeling of connection to the world and community. They tend to emphasise the need for freedom and privacy to form one’s own identity and nurture one’s own inner world.  They are the idealist personality type personified. INFP, ENFP, ENFJ, or INFJ.

The Four Idealists

INFJ: At their best, holds sage like wisdom and pursues inner harmony. Giving and visionary nature. 

ENFP: In flow, a true romantic and adventurer. Always searching for where the rainbow falls. Believes everyone has something special to offer the world, something unique only they can do.

INFPAn individualist who believes in honesty and self-expression. Insightful and wise, they see a utopia or dream world for all of us. 

ENFJ: Capable of magic and the impossible, the ENFJ is passionate and adventureous. A helper who loves to give to others. 

The dreaming types tend to need a lot of stability. They need harmony and peace around them, preferring open and collaborative environments where they can speak their mind freely and where people give them room to be themselves. They tend to struggle to stand up to more dominant and pushy types, and are often more soft-spoken and diplomatic. These types tend to struggle to work hard and make money, as they tend to be more motivated by helping others, and need to hold on to their own identity and what they feel is authentic to them. 

The Struggle Of The NF

If you’re a dreamer, your key struggle tends to be fitting in and aligning the physical world with your ideals. The world can appear cold, grey, and hard to survive in. It’s not what you expected or dreamed it would be. It often grows stale and predictable and days sometimes blend into each others, more and more of the same.

Your concept of the dream life or of your ideals constantly collide with how the world is right now. You need hope and strong iNtuition to be able to hold on to your vision and not lose track of what you want to achieve. The groups and communities around you sometimes appear set on challenging your ideas, setting obstacles and showing resistance to every new thought. It can take a lot of energy to put in work and to stand up to the system without becoming another brick in the wall.

Am I Weird?

A common thread around dreamers is the feeling of being an outcast, or weird. The more you compare yourself against the system, the stronger this feeling becomes. You can’t shake the idea that, while other people have stable social identities and roles, you are fleeting, strange, and complex in another way.

You don’t have a particular place or group you belong to, but rather, you have many different sides to themselves. This is a result of being intuitive and open and a seeker. Dreamers can wrestle feeling weird, feeling lost, feeling that they do not know where they are going. The struggle can be feeling that no matter how hard you try, you will never completely fit in. With growth, what they realise the important thing is not to fit in, but to contribute through their individuality.