16 Personalities Relationships

I have studied transactional analysis, interaction styles, and personality types extensively. Using inspiration from Objective Personality, Socionics, Linda Berens and many more, I was able to develop a theory of different relationships.

16 Personalities Relationships

INFJINTJENTJESFJ
Mentor/
Mentee
DeveloperBrain
stormer
Conscience
ISFJISTJESTJESFP
SupporterAnchorSupervisor
Supervisee
Coach
ENFJENFPENTPESTP
InspiratorSoulmatePlaymateProtector
INTPISTPINFPISFP
Beta-testerFixerCounsellorCoworker
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
DeveloperMentor/MenteeInspiratorBrain
stormer
PlaymateSoulmateCounsellorBeta-tester
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
AnchorSupporterConscienceSupervisor
Supervisee
ProtectorCoachCoworkerFixer
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
BrainstormerInspiratorMentor/
Mentee
DeveloperBeta-testerCounsellorSoulmatePlaymate
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
Supervisor/SuperviseeConscienceSupporterAnchorFixerCoworkerCoachProtector
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
InspiratorBrainstormerDeveloperMentor/
Mentee
CounsellorBeta-testerPlay-mateSoulmate
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
ConscienceSupervisor/
Supervisee
AnchorSupporterCoworkerFixerProtectorCoach
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
SoulmatePlaymateBeta-testerCounsellorMentor/
Mentee
DeveloperBrainstormerInspirator
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
CoachProtectorFixerCoworkerSupporterAnchorSupervisor
Supervisee
Conscience
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
PlaymateSoulmateCounsellorInspiratorDeveloperMentor/
Mentee
Beta-testerBrainstormer
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
ProtectorAnchorCoworkerFixerAnchorCoachConscienceSupervisor
Supervisee
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
Beta-testerCounsellorSoulmatePlaymateBrainstormerInspiratorMentor/
Mentee
Developer
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
FixerCoworkerCoachProtectorSupervisor/
Supervisee
ConscienceSupporterAnchor
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
CounsellorBeta-testerPlaymateSoulmateInspiratorBrainstormerDeveloperMentor/
Mentee
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
CoworkerFixerProtectorCoachConscienceSupervisor/
Supervisee
AnchorSupporter
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
SupporterAnchorSupervisor/
Supervisee
ConscienceCoachProtectorFixerCoworker
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
Mentor/
Mentee
DeveloperBrain
stormer
InspiratorSoulmatePlaymateBeta-testerCounsellor
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
AnchorSupporterConscienceSupervisor
Supervisee
ProtectorCoachCoworkerFixer
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
DeveloperMentor/
Mentee
InspiratorBrain
stormer
PlaymateSoulmateCounsellorBeta-tester
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
Supervisor/
Supervisee
ConscienceSupporterAnchorFixerCoworkerCoachProtector
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
Brain
stormer
InspiratorMentor/
Mentee
DeveloperBeta-testerCounsellorSoulmatePlaymate
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
ConscienceSupervisor/
Supervisee
Brain
stormer
SupporterCoworkerFixerProtectorCoach
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
InspiratorAnchorDeveloperMentor/
Mentee
CounsellorBeta-testerPlaymateSoulmate
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
Mentor/
Mentee
DeveloperBrain
stormer
InspiratorSoulmatePlaymateBeta-testerCounsellor
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
SupporterAnchorSupervisor
Supervisee
ConscienceCoachProtectorFixerCoworker
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
ProtectorCoachCoworkerFixerAnchorSupporterConscienceSupervisor/
Supervisee
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
PlaymateSoulmateCounsellorBeta-testerDeveloperMentor/
Mentee
InspiratorBrain
stormer
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
FixerCoworkerCoachProtectorSupervisor/
Supervisee
ConscienceSupporterAnchor
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
Beta-testerCounsellorSoulmatePlaymateBrainstormerInspiratorMentor/
Mentee
Developer
INFJINTJENTJENFJENFPENTPINTPINFP
CoworkerFixerProtectorCoachConscienceSupervisor/
Supervisee
AnchorSupporter
ISFJISTJESTJESFJESFPESTPISTPISFP
CounsellorBeta-testerPlaymateSoulmateInspiratorBrainstormerDeveloperMentor/
Mentee

MBTI Relationships dynamics

The more similar two people are in terms of temperament, the more they reinforce each others habits and behaviour. The more different two people are in terms of temperament, the more they counteract or balance each other’s instincts. Two introverts with different control styles (J/P) will often test each other. An IXXJ will push and EXXJ.

In terms of values, we can talk about four types of relationships. Play-oriented relationships tend to revolve around fun and shared hobbies and interests. Soul-relationships tend to focus on encouraging each others towards similar goals or values.

Work-relationships tend to revolve around supporting each other’s in different interests or goals. Study relationships generally focus on helping each other improve in different aspects.

Temperaments

Push
IJ-EJ
IP-EP
Counter
IJ-EP
EJ-IP
Reinforce
IJ/IJ & EJ/EJ
IP/IP & EP/EP
Test
IJ-IP
EJ-EP

Values

Soul
NF-NF & NT/NT
SF-SF & ST-ST
Play
NF-NT
SF-ST
Work
SF-NF
NT-ST
Study
NF-ST
NT-SF

The Most Popular MBTI Relationships

In a romantic pairing, the most common long term match-up in modern dating is the soulmate (ENTP-INTJ or ISFP-ESFJ) with the playmate (ENTP-ISFJ or ISFP-ESTJ) being an almost equally popular choice.

Another popular option is the mentor/mentee relationship (INFJ-INFJ or INTP-INTP) with the Protector relationship (ESFP-INTJ or ENFP-ISTJ) being a runner-up.

Most importantly, when building relationships, you have to consider what you want to get out of the relationship. Are you looking to work and improve on yourself and your weaknesses?

Consider dating someone of opposite values to your own. Would you like to spend more time realising a dream or passion of yours? Consider dating someone who has similar values to your own.

16 Types of Relationships

Add a + for every letter you share with the type, and a minus for every letter that is different. For example, INFJ-ISTP would be +— and ENFP-ISTP would be —+.

-+–Playmate–+-Conscience
-++-Soulmate+–+Anchor
++++Mentor/Mentee-+++Inspirator
+++-Counsellor–++Coach
++–Beta-tester—+Supervisor/Supervisee
+—Fixer—-Protector
+-++Supporter++-+Developer
+-+-Coworker-+-+Brainstormer

MBTI Relationship types

The Soulmate: Helps you find balance while chasing your dreams or passions
The Playmate: Someone to explore fun hobbies with
The Mentor/Mentee: Someone you can confide in and open up to easily
The Protector: Someone to help you manage your weaknesses
The Developer: Someone that can help you expand your awareness
The Counsellor: Someone that can give guidance towards a goal or dream
The Beta-tester: Someone that can offer constructive feedback or advice
The Coach: Someone that can offer encouragement or motivation
The Supporter: The person that encourages you to do your best
The Anchor: Someone that can provide stability and control
The Conscience: Someone that can help make sure you do the right thing
The Supervisor/Supervisee: The person that makes sure you stick to the rules
The Brainstormer: A creative outlet
The Inspirator: A cheerleader
The Fixer: A critic
The Coworker: Someone who shares your work ethic and beliefs

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