What is the most important factor to relationship success and what personality types make the best matches? Let’s talk about MBTI relationship compatibility.
Which personality type is your best match?
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What is your MBTI Ideal Match?
What is the best relationship for your personality type? I have found the following:
- Observers play better with observers. Deciders play best with deciders.
- Intuitives play better with iNtuitives. Sensors play best with Sensors
- Feelers play better with Feelers. Thinkers play best with Thinkers.
- Judgers play best with Perceivers. Perceivers play best with Judgers
- Extroverts get along best with Introverts. Introverts best with Extroverts
- Dominant partners pair best with Conscientious partners.
- Influencers play best with Steady partners.
Personality type compatibility explained
MBTI Relationships FAQ
What is the best match in the MBTI?
The ENFP-INFJ or ISTP-ESTJ personality types are examples of what I call the Soulmate pairing. These types share similar values but a different temperament. That means both types will provide each others with balance and perspective, while being able to cooperate towards similar goals.
What are some secondary options?
Co-Heroes: People who share the same personality type are very positive. They can help remind you of who you are and help you understand yourself better.
Playmates: You tend to have the most “fun” with these types but can sometimes struggle to connect emotionally.
Supporters: Very positive for growth, but can also have an emotional disconnection.
What if me and my partner have a “low” compatibility?
First things first. It means you are one of the least common options. That’s cool. You two are unique. Every relationship is unique. Most important thing is: Are you getting your needs met by your partner and are you two able to communicate and compromise on important matters? The lower the compatibility, the more challenging the matchup, but as we all know, the more challenging, the more beneficial it can be to growth and personal development.
How can I connect better with my partner?
Find out where you two tend to conflict. For example, extroverts and introverts may conflict on whether to take action or whether to proceed with more caution. Talk over each others different styles and find ways to compromise so you can both feel the relationship is progressing at a comfortable pace.
What is perception and discernment?
IXXJ “Makers” and EXXP “Testers” are perception-dominant types. These types enjoy the process of gathering information and playing with ideas.
IXXP “Editors” and EXXJ “Drivers” are Discernment-lead types. They enjoy decision making and setting and reaching goals more than anything.
This is a very important difference. Perception types and Discernment types tend to clash in a subtle way. These types can often feel like they “are not on the same page”. That means, while one person talks about reaching goals, one is more creatively inclined and less interested in defining and reaching goals or setting deadlines. This can cause conflict unless you are aware of this and can compromise with each other.