The ENFJ personality type sees opportunities in people and believes people can become better. The ideal coach, the ENFJ mbti type is a fierce advocate and activist. Passionate and benevolent, the ENFJ wants the best for the world. At the same time, the ENFJ wrestles a need for freedom and independence, and wants to go their own way. These two sides in the ENFJ must be bridged for the ENFJ to feel flow and happiness.
Freedom, Benevolence, Independence, Community
Affectionate, Wild, Kind, Nomadic
Become more sensitive to peoples deeper needs and respectful to peoples personal feelings. Find a way to be kind but honest with other people.
Become cold and overly critical of people. Feel frustrated by the slow progress in other peoples lives. Start to assume everyone is against them.
Interpersonal Intelligence, Speculation Intelligence, Interpretative Intelligence and Communication Intelligence
ENFJ Personality Type Description
We typically see the ENFJ MBTI type in flow leading some kind of activism. The ENFJ personality type has high morals that they love to talk about and communicate towards other people. They like to make sure everyone else is on board too, and they want to feel that they share their values and experiences with the community.
The ENFJ Activist will find themselves working hard for other people. They are often engaged with other people and want to set a positive example. They have a high code of conduct, and want to inspire and rally other people through their actions. As an ENFJ, you love visions and talking about your visions and ideas with other people. You dream of going your own way and of finding your own path in life, but can struggle when you notice that other people don't want to follow behind.
The ENFJ dreams of carving a new path forward, and then have people join them. Their intuition is a reminder of this new opportunity they have seen, a vision they have worked on for many years. The ENFJ Activist thinks long and hard about how to campaign for this vision and how to get other people to see things the way they do. The passion and enthusiasm they have behind this tends to rub off on other people, and so, many ENFJs are highly successful at guiding the people through an intricate process of change.
The Activist Archetype
The ENFJs main gift is in their eyes: when they see the world, they see how the world could become. When they see a person, they see the potential within a person. The ENFJ is interested in transformation, of people, of worlds, of their communities. Their eyes see potential and notice opportunities others would generally miss.
The ENFJ is an activist for the people and your fiercest advocate. At the same time, many may be resistant to wanting to be changed. Many may not want to put in the effort. The ENFJ is an activist, but the activist can easily become disappointed in other people and their lack of progress. People may begin to throw out excuses, or they may not believe in themselves as much as you believe in them.
As an activist, what you will notice is, you will have to keep on pushing and keep having hope and faith, even when other people don't. But practice a thumb rule: let people invite you in. Let people invite your help. Make people ask for you before you step in. Don't take on projects that don't want you on board, or you will waste energy lifting rocks that want to remain on the ground. Show people that you are there, and ready to step in if they need, but only if they ask for it. That is the most healthy way for the ENFJ MBTI type to set boundaries.
The Passionate Type
The ENFJ is a great motivational speaker and communicator, but you will learn eventually that communication and a passionate tone is not enough to change the world. However, it is still a great start.
What you will notice over time as an ENFJ is that people are a lot more sensitive than they let you know. People can resist your charm and your idealism on many levels, and if you can become better at understanding people's deeper intentions and how they feel on the inside, you can also become better at adjusting your message to respond to their concerns. People may seem initially positive about the same thing you do, but then, there are blocks, things that make it hard for them to act.
Resist your desire to become impatient and to want to rush. Positive change can rarely be rushed. Stay passionate, and remain optimistic. Don't get discouraged when things take time. Take your time to listen when people resist, and they will tell you valuable things. Things you can use to better help them and respond to what they need. And of course, most importantly, remember that your happiness and your flow does not depend on the people you care about.
The most important thing is yourself and your own happiness and your pride. Remember, that ultimately, while you are a kind-hearted person, to focus on projects that will make you happy. Other people's appreciation is never going to be enough. You are going to have to learn to love yourself. See yourself from your own eyes and recognize what you need to be happy. See people and the community as a healthy outlet for your own needs and dreams, but never give the community and its wishes priority over your own. Remain true to your vision and to your path. Find balance between yourself and others. Always remember who you are, and never forget to give yourself a reminder once in a while.